STOP being so needy!

“Be careful whose attention you seek, for they become your captors.”

That is one of those fortune cookie Buddha sayings I try to live by. Airbnb should do the same.

As my husband and I travel throughout the Northeast this summer, we are being driven crazy by the constant text surveys from various hotels and tour companies.

How was your check-in experience?How was your stay?How was your check-out experience?Would you recommend us to a friend?Please leave us a review.

Asking for feedback at every turn is extremely needy.

I���d be okay if these vendors could send one survey after the full experience, rather than constantly asking for approval at every turn in the process. Vendors, you can be sure that if there is something that needs immediate attention, your customers will let you know.

Can you imagine doing that in your daily life with your spouse? Your children? Your coworkers? Your boss?

How exhausting! For you and for them.

Seeking constant words of affirmation and relying on others’ perceptions to bolster our self-esteem means living by others’ opinions.

My love language is words of affirmation, but honestly, I know when I���m doing a good job. I can ask for input when necessary, but three times a day is too much, too clingy, too needy.

Live from your soul���s purpose, not from external ratings. I promise you, life will get a lot easier. 

Mary