Why Do I Keep Promoting Nontoxic Positivity?

Because the world doesn’t need more negativity in it.Photo by Ava Sol on Unsplash

Let’s be honest. We’re living in maddening, frightening, crazy times. The degree of uncertainty we face daily is surreal, to put it mildly.

A lot of the progress made toward greater equality, equity, diversity, inclusivity, and the like, is being destroyed by hateful, greedy, spiteful people. Unfortunately, their example is rubbing off on scared, uncertain, disempowered people.

There isn’t anything you or I can do about that big picture. We can’t change the narrative and the underlying current impression within the collective consciousness. You cannot control me, and I can’t control you.  From that truth, it can feel like you and I control less and less, down to having almost nothing we can get a hold of.

Yet when all is said and done, you control yourself. The control is developed from choices and decisions you make via active conscious awareness. And part of that requires choosing a positive approach.

What do you control?

Ultimately, you control your thoughts, feelings, intentions, whether your approach is positive or negative, and your actions. That might not seem like much, but in truth, it’s everything.

At your core, your inner being, your mind, is broken into unconscious, subconscious, and conscious aspects. The unconscious mind is your heart beating, your lungs taking in air, neurons firing, and all the other things that drive you every day.

The subconscious mind is where your beliefs, values, habits, and memories live. It is in your subconscious that you form your opinion, worth, and ego. The subconscious is a sponge that absorbs and holds onto all sorts of ideas, concepts, emotions, sensations, and more. Unchecked, it will drive you off a cliff and leave you wondering how the hell that happened.

The conscious mind is where you assert control. This is your mindset/headspace/psyche inner self, right here and now. Only in the present can you assert control via making choices and decisions about what you’re thinking, what and how you’re feeling, your intentions, the positivity or negativity of your approach, and your actions.

Ultimately, being consciously aware (mindful), in your conscious mind, in the now, puts you in control. This allows you to choose who, what, where, how, and why you are, literally and figuratively.

How you approach that, however, impacts the experience.

Photo by Masjid MABA on UnsplashThe power of nontoxic positivity

If you approach a situation without giving it any energy, that neutral alignment means you open yourself to being easily swayed by both internal and external influences. Internal influences are beliefs and values that you might not have checked in with for some time, that don’t serve you now. External influences are people, places, things, random happenstance, and circumstances.

When you approach a situation expecting it to be crap, unpleasant, and negative, you’re inviting that in. Consciousness creates reality. When you expect things to go wrong, odds are they will. It’s not always going to go that way, but it’s a lot more likely to when that’s the energy you put out into the universe.

If you approach a situation expecting it to have potential and possibility, to open doors, you’re inviting that in. This isn’t a denial that shit might happen, but it’s choosing to approach something from a generative place of good and positivity versus an unproductive place of bad and negativity.

Negativity tends to be the product of a lack, scarcity, and an insufficiency mindset. There’s not enough this, that, or the other thing to go around; it’s all in a limited supply, and notions that “they” are taking it from you all tie into this.

Positivity is attached to an abundance mindset. Not in a blind, one-true-way hyperfocus, but in a potential, possibility, and inviting expectation.

However, this is where nontoxic positivity is imperative.

The universe is in balance

With a few exceptions, nothing is all bad or all good. There’s nuance between all the extremes. A lot of distance and things lie between good and evil, happy and sad, up and down, black and white, positivity and negativity, and so on.

Positivity is frequently made toxic with an approach that ignores, disregards, or shuns the negative. But putting on blinders or rose-colored glasses hides the truth. The truth is that bad, negative, and unwanted things can, will, and do occur and exist.

Choosing to face them fatalistically or with resistance is up to you. That’s why your approach, be it positive, negative, or neutral, is important. Positivity – especially nontoxic positivity – is open and ready to find potential and possibility. Negativity is closed and expecting bad or the worst. Neutrality leaves you open to internal and external influence and uncertainty.

I keep promoting nontoxic positivity because it’s a great tool to combat the fucked up world you and I are living in. When all we see is the bad, we start to accept that this is how it is. That’s not true, however. Applying nontoxic positivity to ourselves and our life experiences, the only thing we genuinely can control, is the ultimate resistance to the madness. I, for one, prefer to have the potential and possibility of that over the false inevitability of collapse.

Your mileage may vary, but the choices and decisions ARE yours to make.

Finding and applying nontoxic positivity for your own benefit isn’t hard

It’s all about practicing active conscious awareness of your thoughts, feelings, intentions, and the positivity or negativity of your approach to direct your actions.

When you recognize and acknowledge that you can only control yourself, and your thoughts, feelings, intent, approach, and actions, you’ll see that nontoxic positivity opens you to potential, possibility, and more. Knowing that negativity closes you off and neutrality leaves you twisting in the winds of influence, you can choose for yourself nontoxic positivity to resist the madness of the world at large and improve your life experiences.

This empowers you, and your empowerment can empower others around you.

Consciously choosing your approach to life towards positivity or negativity — from the vast cylinder that exists between them — shifts life in a way that opens greater dialogue. From that dialogue, you can recognize, explore, and share where you are between the extremes and how that impacts you here and now.

Choosing thoughts, feelings, actions, and intentions for yourself opens the way for a positive approach and attitude via your actions. This can lead to realizing amazing potential and possibilities for your life.

The better aware you are of yourself here and now, the better you can choose and decide what, how, and why your life experiences will be. When you empower yourself, that can spread to those around you for their empowerment.

Thank you for coming along on this journey.

This is the six-hundred-third (603) entry of my Positivity series. I hope that these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone. Feel free to share, reblog, and spread the positivity.

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