The Question That Changed Me

What is anger for? I used to think it was power—my way of standing up, of being heard. But the more I held onto it, the more it held onto me. It crept into my relationships, my peace, my sleep. And one day, I realized: anger wasn’t helping me heal. It was keeping me stuck.

Nelly Ferrari’s words hit me like truth I’d been avoiding. Anger, he said, often comes from unmet expectations. That made sense. I expected respect, kindness, understanding—and when I didn’t get it, I burned. But what if anger isn’t the answer? What if it’s just a signal that something deeper needs attention?

I started choosing silence over shouting. Breathing before reacting. Praying instead of plotting. And slowly, the fire faded. Not because I stopped caring—but because I started caring differently. I forgave. I let go. I found peace.

Now, when anger rises, I listen—but I don’t let it lead. I choose grace. I choose growth. And I’m finally free.

I now live The Kodach Secrets.


The Kodach Secrets: The Book of Real-Life Transformation