The Reality of Positivity

What is the reality of positivity, and how does it work?Photo by NEOM on Unsplash

Positivity is not just a thought or a feeling. It’s also attitude and approach. It’s making a choice, here and now, in this moment, to face the positive end of the spectrum.

Life is always in motion. You’re impacted by your internal thoughts, feelings, approach, and intentions. External stimuli, influencers, social media, news, and more, also impact you. Moment to moment, life is in constant flux.

Positivity is not something you can experience all the time. But then, frankly, nothing can be experienced all the time. Even in the midst of tragedy, something can make you laugh. Likewise, in the midst of comedy, horror can pop up and unnerve you.

The reality of positivity is that it’s a tool you can choose to employ in times, places, and situations as needed.

Before I take a deeper dive into that, however, there is an important distinction to be made here.

Toxic positivity is toxic

A great deal of the idea of positivity is overtaken by toxic positivity.

What is toxic positivity? It’s the idea that positivity must overrule all. Worse, it disregards, ignores, and puts on blinders to negativity.

That’s simply not realistic. Nobody feels any given way all the time, and you can’t have positivity without negativity. Life is imperfect, shit happens, and there are so, so many things you have ZERO control over.

Toxic positivity is unrealistic in every way and dangerous as such. People who accept this instead of genuine positivity are choosing willful ignorance. Harsh? Maybe. But not untrue. You cannot experience positivity without also encountering negativity. Negativity simply is, and you can’t ignore, disregard, or put on blinders to that.

I maintain that most opposites in the world aren’t two sides of a coin, but a flexible cylinder. That’s because a coin is thin between the two sides, whereas a cylinder is far broader. The reason I use this is because what exists between good/bad, happy/sad, fear/reason, and positive/negative is incredibly vast.

On top of that, the cylinder is flexible because what is classified as good/bad, happy/sad, and positive/negative can, will, and does change.

Recognizing this is an important step to seeing and understanding the reality of positivity.

What is the reality of positivity?

Simply put, the reality of positivity is a matter of choice. When you are aware, awake, and present in the here and now, you can choose your life experience. Whatever is happening now, you get to choose positive or negative.

The reality of positivity is that it’s not merely thought or feeling, it’s both. Additionally, it also includes intent and approach. What you intend, here and now, and how you approach the world you live in, all come together inside the reality of positivity.

Because thoughts, feelings, intentions, and approach are fluid and constantly changing, subconsciously and consciously, you move in and out of mindfulness. Mindfulness is active conscious awareness. Yes, that means “wokeness”. Again, why is that bad? Do you really prefer to be asleep and not in control? I doubt it.

The reality of positivity is that it’s a choice made in the moment, here and now. Which means you can decide what that means for you.

Photo by Azzedine Rouichi on UnsplashIt takes active conscious awareness

Mindfulness is when you choose active conscious awareness. It comes from within.

Mindfulness includes being aware, in the present, of what you’re thinking, what and how you’re feeling, your intentions, if your approach to this moment is positive, neutral, or negative, and what actions you take.

The reality of positivity is that it’s an active, consciously aware choice in the here and now. That’s how you can find the good in the middle of the bad, take a terrible situation and learn a lesson from it. This is how you can choose to grow and change rather than shrink and stagnate.

The reality of positivity is that it’s never an all-the-time, without negativity notion. It’s a choice. A choice that you can make or not, regularly.

This is all about empowerment and taking control over the very few things that you really, truly, can and do control. Via active conscious awareness, the reality of positivity is that you have a choice in any given situation to live by rote and routine – or make choices and decisions for yourself. The power of this is amazing, and it opens you to all sorts of potential and possibilities.

Understanding the reality of positivity isn’t hard

It’s all about practicing active conscious awareness of your thoughts, feelings, intentions, and the positivity or negativity of your approach to direct your actions.

When you recognize and acknowledge that the reality of positivity is that it’s a choice, you can use this to approach any situation however you would prefer to. Knowing positivity is something you can choose via active conscious awareness – mindfulness – you can work with this to decide how your life will look, here and now, in any present moment, for good or ill.

This empowers you, and your empowerment can empower others around you.

Consciously choosing your approach to life towards positivity or negativity — from the vast cylinder that exists between them — shifts life in a way that opens greater dialogue. From that dialogue, you can recognize, explore, and share where you are between the extremes and how that impacts you here and now.

Choosing thoughts, feelings, actions, and intentions for yourself opens the way for a positive approach and attitude via your actions. This can lead to realizing amazing potential and possibilities for your life.

The better aware you are of yourself here and now, the better you can choose and decide what, how, and why your life experiences will be. When you empower yourself, that can spread to those around you for their empowerment.

Thank you for coming along on this journey.

This is the six-hundredth (600) entry of my Positivity series. I hope that these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone. Feel free to share, reblog, and spread the positivity.

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