���Get off the cross. We need the wood.���

                                                          James van Praagh, Intuitive Medium

My client had only one question for Spirit. ���Why me?���

The answer from Spirit was less than she hoped for.  ���Why do you allow others to treat you badly?���

Sometimes we experience being a victim, but it is not our burden to carry. It is our challenge to overcome and to learn from. It is how we learn about healthy boundaries.

After a heinous crime in a parking garage near my work, a police officer came to give us safety tips. She told about taking statements from victims who would say things like ���I was late for work this morning, had a fight with my boss, the sitter needs to get home, and now this.” Yes, and now this. You were distracted by the burdens, making yourself all the more vulnerable. Unable to see what���s coming, and possibly believe you do not deserve better.

The officer’s story was not intended to blame the victim. It was meant to help us avoid becoming a victim.

Compared to many people, I have lived a charmed life. That does not mean I haven’t experienced loss, betrayal, and other traumas that made me want to curl up in a fetal position. But I learned that I did not want to surrender my power, and that is the cost of not learning the lesson and taking charge.

���Get off the cross. We need the wood,��� challenges us to make better use of our traumas. How can we learn from those experiences rather than carry our mental and sometimes literal crosses throughout time? Wouldn���t the wood be better used for fuel, light, or lodging?

Do you have a cross that you are tired of carrying?

This is where hypnotherapy can help you imagine a way out, a better vision for yourself���a more constructive use for that energy (and cross-carrying requires lots of energy).

If you���re ready to surrender your burdens to live a life of personal power, set up a no-cost discovery call with me to see if hypnotherapy can help.

Mary