Seeking the Something New.

A friend arrives with a box of seedlings, including tithonia, AKA Mexican sunflowers, a tall, brilliantly orange, hopeful plant. A few mornings later, more friends appear with seedlings and a pitchfork. Lucky, lucky me.

I am a gardener who allows the Johnny-jump-ups and forget-me-nots to spread where they like, pulling back a few and nestling in basil, scallions, poppies. Why unroot a flower? Eventually, I weed diligently, ruthlessly. The garden mirrors my approach to novel writing. My friends leave with their boxes filled with forget-me-nots as a gentle rain falls on the tender seedlings.

Every day is a further day from surgery and chemo, the days and night accumulating like pages read in a book. I put away the narcotics, the Tylenol, the ibuprofen. Mornings, I drink a single cup of café au lait. I sauté mushrooms, bake a quiche. I ask for a ride to drop off my car at the garage, worrying about walking up my hill, but picking it up is mostly downhill. I walk.

For a little bit yet, I’m a person of interest in this small town. The postmistress asks me, no, really, how are you? For months, the PO staff has stuffed my box with cards and books and sheaves of medical bills from two hospitals. I’m there to pick up a book of essays (a gift which quickens my heartbeat). I tell her I’m in remission, that word still awkward as it emerges from my throat. I want to add that remission does not mean cured, does not mean that this strange and uninvited cancer beast has left my body – and certainly not my soul. I don’t know this woman at all well, but she looks steadily at me, as if she understands what I’m thinking.

Here’s the thing: how afraid I was of cancer eight months ago; honestly, I’m still fearful of it. Yet, cancer rooted in me, infested my family, my friends, a great wide circle of people around me, including my readers here. This is not unique. In its myriad forms, cancer spreads widely. I lived for years with the putrifying secrets of addiction. I refuse to repeat that with cancer.

Last November, I thought I wouldn’t live to see spring. I did. If jaywalking doesn’t do me in, cancer certainly might. Or I might die as a scrawny old woman from a stroke or heart attack. In this rainy late spring/early summer, I’m grateful for the possibly random dice throw, for plants and gardeners, for an infinitude of people. Among these are the people who’ve shared their stories with me, of decades-ago cancer diagnoses, almost always offered sotte voce, as if not to tempt the fates. Their stories ring clearly: I endured, I transformed, I thrived. This possibility can be mine (maybe yours, too).

From Suleika Jaoad’s The Book of Alchemy:

But there are also moments when our internal compasses tell us it’s time to change course–to leave something behind and build something new…. Rebuilding is not easy…. But to me, rebuilding unfolds alongside becoming. It is crucial, if we want to keep evolving and flourishing, to get rid of things that are no longer serving us and make space for something new to grow.