Stop Chasing Happiness: Why Youâre Never Satisfied (and How to Fix It)
If youâve ever found yourself saying, âIâll be happy whenâ¦â â when the house is clean, when the kids are older, when you finally get that promotion or dream kitchen â youâre not alone. Maybe youâre always chasing the next goal, the next purchase, the next big thing⦠but somehow, happiness still feels out of reach.
In this episode, Iâm getting real about something Iâve been struggling with for years: destination addiction. Itâs that constant feeling of needing more to finally feel content. And spoiler alert â itâs not just a mindset issue⦠itâs biology. Itâs what psychologists call the hedonic treadmill, and friends, Iâve been sprinting on it for most of my adult life.
So today, Iâm hitting pause. Iâm sharing the science behind why we adapt so quickly to the good stuff, why our happiness resets to âmeh,â and what we can actually do about it. If youâve been feeling chronically dissatisfied, overwhelmed, or like youâre missing the joy in your already-amazing life â this oneâs for you.
Whether youâre in full hustle mode or feeling a little lost between ânext big things,â this episode is your permission slip to slow down, breathe, and start appreciating the incredible life youâre living right now.
⨠In this episode, I talk about:
What the âhedonic treadmillâ really means â and how it keeps us stuckHow society, social media, and even ADHD feed into our addiction to âmoreâThe emotional crash that comes after a big milestoneWhy midlife crises arenât what we think they areHow to raise your âbaselineâ and feel truly content againSimple but powerful ways to practice gratitude and presence every dayð This isnât about giving up on dreams. Itâs about learning to love the life youâve already built.
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Here are the articles and resources I talked about â
â What Is the Hedonic Treadmill? (PositivePsychology.com) – https://positivepsychology.com/hedoni...
â Hedonic Treadmill â Psychology Today – https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/ba...
â Understanding Dissatisfaction â Dr. Debra Campbell – https://www.drdebracampbell.com/under...
â 4 Steps to Letting Go of Chronic Dissatisfaction â Lynda Hoffman – https://lyndahoffman.com/4-steps-to-letting-go-of-chronic-dissatisfaction/
â Lottery Winners and Accident Victims: Is Happiness Relative? (ResearchGate) – https://www.researchgate.net/publicat...


