Is My Child Ready for Preschool? Spotting the Signs Beyond Age

The Backpack Isn’t the Sign—Your Child’s Play Might Be.

I still remember the morning my son Kuku started preschool.

His bag was packed, his water bottle filled, and his uniform—an adorable size too small—was ironed with military precision.

Everything was ready… except him.

Kuku crawled under the table three days in, clinging to my leg like a koala. The teacher gave me the kindest smile she could manage before saying, “He might just need more time.”

More time? But he was three and a half! The “right” age, right?

That’s when it hit me: I had prepared everything except the part that mattered most—his readiness.

Why We Miss the Signs

Most of us think preschool readiness is about age, potty training, or the ability to recite A like a mini YouTube star. But here’s what we’re missing:

Preschool isn’t just a place. It’s a shift.

A shift from one-on-one caregiving to shared attention.

From free-flowing days to structure.

From parallel play to interactive play.

And for neurodiverse kids? It’s a leap into sensory storms, social puzzles, and invisible expectations.

I’ve learned that actual readiness hides in moments we overlook—the pauses between play, the way a child asks for help, and the tiny “wins” in transitions.

The Four Real Signs of Preschool Readiness

Here’s what I now look for—not just as a professional, but as a parent who’s been there:

1.    Flexible Attention

Can your child move from one activity to another with a bit of support—not a full-blown meltdown?

This doesn’t mean zero fuss. It means they can handle transitions, maybe with a countdown, song, or a visual cue.

2.    Seeking (Some) Independence

Do they try to unzip their bag, open a snack box, or wash their hands with minimal help—even if it’s messy or slow?

It’s the trying that counts.

3.    Basic Emotional Expression

Can they express basic needs like “I’m tired,” “I want Mama,” or “No, stop”?

Even with gestures or a few words—this shows emerging emotional awareness and a growing ability to self-advocate.

4.    Group Play Readiness

Can they sit near others during story time or engage in short play sessions that involve turn-taking, imitation, or simple cooperation?

These are the real muscles of preschool.

Activity You Can Try: The “Play → Pause → Pivot” Game

This one is a favourite in my sessions and my living room:

Step 1: Choose a favourite activity—building blocks, pretend tea party, colouring.

Step 2: After 5 minutes, gently pause. Say, “Let’s take a break and try something else now!”

Step 3: Shift to a new activity (snack, movement, storytime). Praise any cooperation.

Example: “Wow, you stopped playing so quickly! That’s exactly what we do in big-kid school!”

Why it works:

This playful routine builds transition tolerance, emotional regulation, and executive function—all without using a single worksheet.

Let’s Redefine ‘Ready’

Preschool shouldn’t be the first place your child learns to take turns or ask for help. We can and should start these skills gently, joyfully, and without pressure at home.

If your child isn’t showing all the signs yet—it’s OK. Readiness is a spectrum, not a checklist. And your child is not “behind” because they need more time. They’re simply on their own timeline—and that deserves respect.

Let’s Talk:

What’s one thing your child does that makes you feel they’re ready—or not quite—for preschool? I’d love to hear your stories in the comments below.

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Recommended Resources for Parents & Educators

To support your journey in preparing your child for preschool, here are some thoughtfully selected resources:

Free Online Courses: Reading Readiness: Signs to Look for and Tips to Prepare Your Child for Literacy Success This course offers practical strategies to nurture your child’s early literacy skills, focusing on language development, print awareness, and engaging reading activities.Self-Regulation in Early Childhood Understanding self-regulation is crucial for preschool readiness. This resource delves into attention regulation, emotion control, and behaviour management strategies to support your child’s development. Autism Spectrum Disorder in Early Childhood For parents of neurodiverse children, this course provides insights into ASD, including behavioural strategies and educational methods tailored for young learners.Recommended Products Melissa & Doug Wooden Building Blocks Set Enhance fine motor skills and creativity with this classic set of wooden blocks, perfect for open-ended play. Skillmatics Preschool Champion – Educational Game This interactive game covers essential preschool concepts through fun activities, promoting cognitive development.Fisher-Price Laugh & Learn Smart Stages Chair: A playful chair that introduces numbers, shapes, and more, adapting to your child’s learning stage.FirstCry Intelliskills Preschool Readiness Kit: A comprehensive kit designed to prepare children aged 3-4 for preschool, focusing on key developmental areas.

These resources and products are curated to support your child’s transition into preschool, focusing on building foundational skills through engaging and developmentally appropriate activities.