Let Go to Level Up: The Hidden Power of Surrendering Control in Leadership and Life
There’s a strange freedom that comes with letting go—of expectations, of control, of being the person everyone thinks you are supposed to be.
For most of my life, I’ve been the guy who could will things into existence. I’ve relied on grit, drive, execution. I’ve wrestled impossible quotas to the ground, landed a multitude of 9- and 8- and 7-figure deals, and reinvented my career more times than I can count.
But lately, I’ve had a quiet reckoning with a truth I didn’t want to face: not everything can be controlled. And more importantly, not everything should be.
I built my career on owning every inch of every outcome. Every sales board, every pipeline gap, every customer conversation—I’d over-prepare, over-deliver, and push through even when it felt like there was nothing left in the tank. I micromanaged the chaos. I scheduled every waking moment to keep the demons at bay. And it worked—for a long, long, long time. We’re talking it worked 25+ years. It worked until the day it didn’t.
There was a season not long ago where I found myself slowly unraveling—physically, mentally, emotionally. The pace I’d prided myself on became unsustainable. I was breaking down, but didn’t want to admit it. Because I was the guy who always had the answer. The guy who could rally everyone, close the deal, inspire the team, take the call, record the podcast, write the article, win the meeting, and still make it home in time to be Superdad. The truth? I was silently burning out in slow motion.
What I’ve realized is this: control is often a mirage. And the tighter you grip something—your plan, your identity, your status, your perfect outcome—the more brittle it becomes. The real power, I’ve learned, is in surrendering what no longer serves you and focusing your energy on the few things that do.
Letting go isn’t weakness. It’s wisdom.
I had to let go of the idea that I had to be “always on.” I had to stop treating my calendar like a battlefield and start protecting white space like it was oxygen. I stopped needing to be the loudest voice in the room. I started trusting my team more—really trusting, not just delegating tasks but empowering ownership. I leaned harder into mentorship and collaboration, and less into micromanagement or forcing the play. I stepped out of meetings I didn’t need to be in. I gave up inbox zero. And here’s the kicker: everything got better. I got more creative. My team got stronger. My impact grew.
Sometimes the best leadership move is subtraction. Not adding more to your plate, but cutting away the things that distract you from your zone of genius. Not needing to fix everything or be everywhere, but trusting that what’s meant to come together will—if you’ve laid the right foundation and surround yourself with the right people.
The best performers I know? They’re not doing more. They’re doing less—better. They’ve learned the art of strategic neglect. They don’t obsess over every task, every metric, every meeting. They obsess over meaning. Over what actually moves the needle. And they’re deeply intentional about how they spend their time, energy, and attention.
Letting go gave me space to think again. To breathe. To listen more than I spoke. To prioritize health—mental, emotional, spiritual. To say no without guilt and yes with clarity. It gave me the margin to be more present with my family, more innovative in my work, and more me than I’ve been in a long time.
Look—I’m still that guy who obsesses over execution and strives for excellence. That hasn’t changed. But I’ve learned that greatness isn’t about how tight you hold the wheel. It’s about knowing when to drive and when to release. When to press forward, and when to trust the process.
To anyone else out there trying to juggle all the roles, meet all the expectations, hold it all together—I see you. I’ve been you. And I can tell you with certainty: you don’t have to control everything to succeed. In fact, you’ll soar higher when you stop trying.
So here’s to the leaders who are learning to let go—not because they’re giving up, but because they’re growing up.
Let go of the noise. Let go of the illusion of control. Let go of who you were.
And make room for who you’re becoming.
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