Memories
Memories are things that happened in the past that were meaningful or impactful. Some of them are positive. Some are negative.Some will just be remembered by your brain in the same casual manner as, “Darn, I forgot the milk.”
And some will be remembered by your body as in how your body physically shuddered and your shoulders pinned inward and your hands shook when you were yelled at for forgetting the milk.
Both of them are memories, but one is more terrifying than the other because it’s a memory from the past physically impacting your present.
Memories that leave physical impacts or have physical reactions aren’t stronger than other memories, but they do seem scarier.
This happens because survival brain doesn’t process time. Everything is immediate.
Survival brain needs logic brain to say, “that was 30 years ago. I’m a grown up now, I don’t have to be afraid.”
As ugly as these memories are, they need to be confronted in a safe way. That means that you’ll need to constantly remind yourself that you are safe and you might want to have someone with you who you trust to also remind you of that.
This is really difficult, so try to find someone who’s trained, or have something on hand to calm you.
Something we can all have is cold water. Cold water helps calm the nervous system.
I will do a post on the nervous system and how it works, along with why cold water helps the healing process, but for now the experts are recommending: drink water.
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