Getting Emotions Out of the Danger Box
Many of our opinions on our emotions come from how we were raised as children. Your parents’ and caregivers’ actions regarding emotions taught you how to function or not function with your emotions.
As an adult, if you want to behave differently because you know the damage and chaos that emotions can cause - you’re going to have learn something new.
You’re going to have to engage with the Danger Box.You’re going to have to deal with the emotions.And you’re going to have to avoid the overwhelm.The Danger Box if not dealt with, will open on its own and when it does, you will be left with the mess.The Danger Box usually isn’t actually ‘dangerous’. What it contains are things that make you suffer and things that make you stressed.
Often holding these things in the Danger Box causes more problems than letting them out… and that’s why people don’t think they have a problem with their emotions.
However, the people who live with the consequences of having the Danger Box dumped on them: They know there’s a problem.
And they have survival systems too. They also know that you have a Danger Box and they probably know what’s in it because you dumped it on them too many times.
This is why trauma and poor emotional regulation run in families - everyone dumps their Danger Box on everyone else, instead of sorting the contents and learning how to deal with their emotions.
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