430 SelfWork: What Was Your "Job" In Your Family?
What was your "job" in your family?
Most of us love to take tests like the Enneagram or the Myers/Briggs to find out what the test might have to say about our personality style or our strengths and vulnerabilities. But something you might also gravitate to ��� in thinking about what���s called your family of origin ��� or the family you grew up in ��� is talking about the roles each of the children played in the family - or what was your "job" in your family. The six most commonly agreed upon roles are called Hero, Scapegoat, Lost Child, Mascot, Caretaker/Enabler and Golden Child ��� and we���ll go through all of these in detail!
So today we���re going talk about the role you played in your family and maybe even the role you���re STILL playing in your family. And��� as always��� what can you do about it if you���re not profiting from it in a healthy way.
The listener voicemail is from a young woman who recognizes her role as ���the golden child��� in her family ��� as the one who can make no mistakes in a parent���s eyes. And her issue with realizing her mom ��� who is working on her own self-improvement ��� treats her sister very differently. And what should she do about that? I���ll have some ideas for her ��� and you.
Vital Links:��Heidi Priebe's excellent Medium article on jobs children are given in families
Resource with even more "roles" children play
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