Life update (01/03/2025)
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New year, I keep hearing. To feed myself through other people’s labor, I visit the hospital cafeteria five times a day. Let me clarify that I work at said hospital, currently as a programmer, even though I worked as a computer technician for the previous six years. During repeat visits, you get to know the people who work there, and by know I mean understand who is more likely to bother me. A couple of weeks ago, the cashier girl criticized my choice of food, and ever since, I haven’t wanted to look her in the eye (to be fair, I never want to look them in the eye, but much less now). Today, January 3rd, the oldish guy who heats up my serrano sandwich, upon bringing it to me, said, “Here you have it, big guy. Happy new year.” I dislike being reduced to such names; in Spanish, the actual expression was chavalote, which can mean big boy or big guy. Annoying thing to call a six-foot-one, nearly forty-year-old man. After I told him thanks, he did a double take and said, “Happy new year, eh?” clearly expecting me to repeat it back to him. I just nodded and left.
Is it a happy new year? Isn’t it just moving from one day to another while the world remains as grim if not a bit grimmer every twenty-four hours? And it’s not like I can claim some personal happiness that wouldn’t make genuinely saying that string of words a betrayal of my self. Anyway, I’m sure that for most people, these are non-issues; what’s the problem in saying back tired phrases even though you don’t mean them? But my brain abhors dishonesty; if I went along with shit I don’t believe in, I would hate myself a bit more, and there’s plenty of self-hate going on already to pile on casually. Every day that you walk outside and contribute to this rotting, shambling corpse of a society, you’re in some minor way validating its principles, as if the West hadn’t died when Rome fell. But the least I get into that whole mess, the better.
Anyway, what’s filling my mind these days? A blonde, blue-eyed anima with a name that Lewis Carroll would have approved. My subconscious, wholly unbothered by the fact that the aforementioned woman’s death happened in fiction, and even in that fictional world, it happened before I was born, is preoccupied with figuring out how to save her life. Don’t you have anything better to worry about, little basement girl? Perhaps there isn’t truly anything better to worry about. Who would I care about instead? Flesh-and-bone people? The worst part of any day is dealing with human beings. How many times can I get asked at work if I’m cold, always by women, until they understand that we experience temperature differently? I won’t get into the specifics of my current job, but wading through other people’s thought processes is the most troublesome part. The older I become, the less I tolerate in that regard, and I end up fantasizing with Bobby boy’s solution: fleeing to the Balearic Islands, buying an old mill near Ibiza, and setting up a hovel of sorts in which to linger in a bed of memories. “Holding on to an image of her face” kind of business.
My personal regrets are tied to my shortcomings. Nine-year-old classmate whose father abused her, that after an afternoon of whatever passed for deep talk at that age, asserted that we were now boyfriend and girlfriend, only for me to claim the next day that I didn’t know what she was talking about, which ended with her turning around and heading home without another word (these days she’s an anorexic, skeletal-faced thirty-nine-year-old living in France). Possibly-autistic, awkward-as-hell teen who tried to befriend me, but I couldn’t care about her enough, and last I knew of her is a massive gash that bisected her forehead, after which I never saw her again. Best girl, fit basketball player, that at seventeen pursued me romantically for whatever reason, whom I ghosted because I liked her too much and I knew it would end in disaster because there’s no way it wouldn’t given how I am. Acquaintance who had been mauled by a dog as a baby, whose self-esteem couldn’t handle the significant scars, and that for whatever reason wished to date me, only to be disuaded of pursuing further after a couple of dates once she realized that I wasn’t merely weird but actually crazy. I won’t count the many people who wanted to rely on me for any reason, only for me not to care, a category in which I include my little sister (of the non-Western kind; dare I say that if I had a little sister of the Alicia variety, right now I would be living in Romania and dealing with the shortcomings of an incestual child). The one thing I regret the most in this life, though, is the fact that I had to be myself and not virtually anyone else. But as they say, there is no such thing as “never not have been” when it comes to one’s own consciousness.
What would I like to do at this juncture of my life? Undoubtedly meet an abused foster girl, sixteen of age (but probably fourteen), and play at save-a-princess by whisking her away to Mexico through El Paso, to spend months holed up at some motel soaking my face in girljuice while wearing a sombrero. Losing myself in beauty, which is ultimately what a man lives for. Alas, dreams remain as such.
New year, I keep hearing. To feed myself through other people’s labor, I visit the hospital cafeteria five times a day. Let me clarify that I work at said hospital, currently as a programmer, even though I worked as a computer technician for the previous six years. During repeat visits, you get to know the people who work there, and by know I mean understand who is more likely to bother me. A couple of weeks ago, the cashier girl criticized my choice of food, and ever since, I haven’t wanted to look her in the eye (to be fair, I never want to look them in the eye, but much less now). Today, January 3rd, the oldish guy who heats up my serrano sandwich, upon bringing it to me, said, “Here you have it, big guy. Happy new year.” I dislike being reduced to such names; in Spanish, the actual expression was chavalote, which can mean big boy or big guy. Annoying thing to call a six-foot-one, nearly forty-year-old man. After I told him thanks, he did a double take and said, “Happy new year, eh?” clearly expecting me to repeat it back to him. I just nodded and left.
Is it a happy new year? Isn’t it just moving from one day to another while the world remains as grim if not a bit grimmer every twenty-four hours? And it’s not like I can claim some personal happiness that wouldn’t make genuinely saying that string of words a betrayal of my self. Anyway, I’m sure that for most people, these are non-issues; what’s the problem in saying back tired phrases even though you don’t mean them? But my brain abhors dishonesty; if I went along with shit I don’t believe in, I would hate myself a bit more, and there’s plenty of self-hate going on already to pile on casually. Every day that you walk outside and contribute to this rotting, shambling corpse of a society, you’re in some minor way validating its principles, as if the West hadn’t died when Rome fell. But the least I get into that whole mess, the better.
Anyway, what’s filling my mind these days? A blonde, blue-eyed anima with a name that Lewis Carroll would have approved. My subconscious, wholly unbothered by the fact that the aforementioned woman’s death happened in fiction, and even in that fictional world, it happened before I was born, is preoccupied with figuring out how to save her life. Don’t you have anything better to worry about, little basement girl? Perhaps there isn’t truly anything better to worry about. Who would I care about instead? Flesh-and-bone people? The worst part of any day is dealing with human beings. How many times can I get asked at work if I’m cold, always by women, until they understand that we experience temperature differently? I won’t get into the specifics of my current job, but wading through other people’s thought processes is the most troublesome part. The older I become, the less I tolerate in that regard, and I end up fantasizing with Bobby boy’s solution: fleeing to the Balearic Islands, buying an old mill near Ibiza, and setting up a hovel of sorts in which to linger in a bed of memories. “Holding on to an image of her face” kind of business.
My personal regrets are tied to my shortcomings. Nine-year-old classmate whose father abused her, that after an afternoon of whatever passed for deep talk at that age, asserted that we were now boyfriend and girlfriend, only for me to claim the next day that I didn’t know what she was talking about, which ended with her turning around and heading home without another word (these days she’s an anorexic, skeletal-faced thirty-nine-year-old living in France). Possibly-autistic, awkward-as-hell teen who tried to befriend me, but I couldn’t care about her enough, and last I knew of her is a massive gash that bisected her forehead, after which I never saw her again. Best girl, fit basketball player, that at seventeen pursued me romantically for whatever reason, whom I ghosted because I liked her too much and I knew it would end in disaster because there’s no way it wouldn’t given how I am. Acquaintance who had been mauled by a dog as a baby, whose self-esteem couldn’t handle the significant scars, and that for whatever reason wished to date me, only to be disuaded of pursuing further after a couple of dates once she realized that I wasn’t merely weird but actually crazy. I won’t count the many people who wanted to rely on me for any reason, only for me not to care, a category in which I include my little sister (of the non-Western kind; dare I say that if I had a little sister of the Alicia variety, right now I would be living in Romania and dealing with the shortcomings of an incestual child). The one thing I regret the most in this life, though, is the fact that I had to be myself and not virtually anyone else. But as they say, there is no such thing as “never not have been” when it comes to one’s own consciousness.
What would I like to do at this juncture of my life? Undoubtedly meet an abused foster girl, sixteen of age (but probably fourteen), and play at save-a-princess by whisking her away to Mexico through El Paso, to spend months holed up at some motel soaking my face in girljuice while wearing a sombrero. Losing myself in beauty, which is ultimately what a man lives for. Alas, dreams remain as such.
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