Scripts to Get Beyond Defensiveness to Relate Authentically with Emotions

IT'S YOUR FAULT! 

NO! IT'S YOUR FAULT!

Both people are angry. After insults are flung and the damage is done, the outburst is over. But, simmering anger lingers with both people retreating into their lonely corners.

Where does a couple go from this kind of stand-off?

When we relate from our defenses, the brilliant ways we “protect” ourselves from emotions, a BIG wall blocks authentic connection. 

While we may rationalize that it makes sense to defend against a perceived attack, we often e...