Be Careful What You Ask For….

I’ve specifically avoided saying the words…”I told you so.” However, a very similar phrase has the same level of cathartic impact…”Be careful what you ask for because you just might get it.” It’s been more than a week since the disastrous outcome of the election, and there are already a number of stories from Trump supporters regretting their choice. Buzzfeed is currently collecting and reporting on those stories. There was a 700% increase in the number of searches on how to change your vote. The dipshits who voted for him actually thought that was possible. SMDH. However, my most favorite movement is the 4B movement. For the single ladies out there, pay attention because we could actually experience a massive increase in the number of women converting to our tribe. Toasters for everyone! Just kidding…However, for those who don’t know about this, here’s a condensed explanation and history of this movement.

The 4B movement originated in South Korea in mid-2010s. It is defined by its “4 Nos”. Bihon – No marriage; Bichulsan – No childbirth; Biyeonae – No Dating; and Bisekseu – No sex. Just to be clear it is a feminist movement, so the no only applies to men!The movement gained traction in 2015 or 2016 during a time of significant social and economic transformation where a huge gender pay gap existed. The pivotal moment occurred in 2016 with the murder of a woman in a Seoul public bathroom, highlighting the pervasive gender violence in South KoreaThe movement inspired a similar movement in China called 6B4T.By 2019, there were approximately 4,000 members.Right after the election, 4b trended on social media with nearly 500,000 searches.The origin of this movement may go back as far as the Greek play Lysistrata, by Aristophanes, which persuades the women of the warring cities to withhold sexual privileges from their husbands and lovers as a means of forcing the men to negotiate peace—a strategy that inflames the battle between the sexes.In the 1600s, Iroquois women in North America withheld sex and childbearing to gain decision making power over warfare.Many other countries including, Kenya, Liberia, South Sudan, Togo, Columbia, Italy (Naples), Ukraine and the Phillipines, have engaged in sex strikes.The women’s suffrage movement considered this as a tactic, but ultimately decided against using it.As recent as 2019, Alyssa Milano called for a sex strike to protest the bill that Georgia Gov. Brian Kemp signed to ban abortions if a fetal heartbeat could be detected.

Will this movement really catch on? Who knows? However, the fact that this story made it into mainstream media might mean that at the very least, it will bring women’s issues more into focus. Recently, I came across a social media post questioning whether, and I quote, “Be honest. Can a woman enjoy her life to the fullest without a man in her life.” Of course, I had to respond with, “Of course. Very stupid question for a lesbian.” I assume this was a post in response to the viral interest in the 4B movement. Anyhow, I can assure you that most of my books have lesbian main characters who are quite content without having sex with men, marrying men, or dating men. As for childbirth, perhaps there will come a day when it isn’t necessary to use sperm to create a life. Ironically, I am currently writing a time-travel novel featuring a brilliant scientist who does just that! If you want to check out my books, you know the drill, just click the links below. I very much appreciate your support, especially now in these times when Project 2025 puts at risk our work by classifying it as pornography.