How to Extinguish ADHD’s Little Fires – A Guide for Parents

If you’re a parent to a child with ADHD, you know the feeling—moments that seem to spark into little fires, moments where you’re juggling meltdowns, restlessness, and attempts to keep calm. But what if I told you some tools and strategies can help?

Here’s a look at some simple ways to redirect that energy and how to find calm, even when things heat up.

1.    Understanding the Fires: Why They Happen

Imagine a moment when your child is bursting with energy, struggling to stay calm, or suddenly feeling overwhelmed with emotion. What we’re witnessing is often their way of saying, “I have energy that I need to release!” sometimes, they need an outlet.

2.    Offer a Calming Alternative

One way to “extinguish” these fires is to provide sensory tools that engage their hands, minds, and emotions in soothing ways.

Recommended Sensory Toys

Look for items like these:

Liquid Motion Bubblers: These are visually engaging, with bubbles that flow gently, helping kids to focus and calm down as they watch.Pop Tubes: Kids love stretching, bending, and making sounds with these colourful tubes, which keep their hands busy.Squishy Stress Balls: These are perfect for squeezing out pent-up energy, especially during tense or overstimulating moments.

Each sensory item can help a child refocus without feeling overly controlled or limited, giving them an engaging and soothing outlet.

3.    Create “Cool Down” Zones

Identify a calming corner or spot in your home—a bean bag, blankets, and a small basket of sensory toys can help create a safe space for self-regulation. Sometimes, adding a sensory mat or a weighted blanket can help children feel grounded and secure.

4.    Keep Moving, Keep Growing

Sometimes, the best way to calm the fires is to keep moving. Try daily activities like short stretches, jumping jacks, or rhythm-based exercises. Movement can channel energy constructively and help your child focus better afterwards.

5.    Celebrate the Small Wins

Lastly, acknowledge every moment of calm—no matter how brief. A high five, a smile, or even saying, “I saw how you managed to stay calm just now. Great job!” can go a long way in building confidence.

If you’d like to dive deeper or need personalized support, book a 1:1 consultation with me here. Let’s find ways to make each day calmer and more joyful.

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Remember, the right tools and a little understanding can help your child learn to “cool down” independently. It’s all about guiding them gently, helping them find calm.

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