When Teens Feel Embarrassed About Using Their Accommodations: A Parent’s Guide

It hits close to home when I hear from parents of teens who feel embarrassed about using their accommodations. Teens, more than anyone, just want to blend in. Standing out because of exceptional support? That can feel like the last thing they want.

But here’s the thing: those accommodations are not a spotlight. They’re bridges—bridges to help teens cross into their potential without the obstacles that neurodiverse challenges can throw in the way.

Why Do Teens Feel Embarrassed?

At this stage in life, teens are hyper-aware of social dynamics. They might fear their friends or classmates will think differently of them for using tools that set them apart. Whether wearing noise-cancelling headphones, using extra time on tests, or sitting in a quieter classroom, the fear is the same: “What will people think of me?”

But here’s what I often share with teens and my son: using an accommodation isn’t a weakness. It’s like wearing glasses. Glasses don’t make you ‘different’; they make you see clearly to thrive in your world. Accommodations do the same.

How Parents Can HelpNormalize the Tools 

Help your teen see that accommodations are not ‘special’ in the wrong way. Just like some kids need glasses, others need fidget toys to stay focused or extra time to process instructions. Normalize the idea that everyone has different needs and ways to succeed.

Let Them Express Their Feelings 

Whether through journaling, drawing, or any other creative outlet, encourage your teen to express their feelings about using accommodations. When they get those feelings out, they might be able to see their situation from a new perspective.

Encourage Open Conversations 

Let your teen know it’s okay to talk about feeling embarrassed. Once they express that, work together on reframing how they view their accommodations. You might say, “These tools are helping you succeed just like others use study apps or tutors.”

Help Them Find Supportive Peers 

Teens don’t need everyone to understand them—just a few key people. Help them identify friends who accept them for who they are and what their accommodations are.

Recommended Products to Support Teens

Here are a few helpful tools you can find that might make the transition easier for your teen:

Coloured Reading Overlays : These can make reading easier for teens with ADHD or dyslexia by reducing visual stress on the page. Fidget Toys : These discreet toys help teens manage their restlessness during class or study time. They’re quiet, easy to use, and don’t draw attention. Noise-Cancelling Headphones : These can significantly benefit teens sensitive to noise, especially in busy environments like classrooms or libraries.Final Thoughts

As parents, we can empower our teens by helping them see that their accommodations aren’t a crutch—they’re empowerment tools. With the proper support, your teen will start to feel more confident, embracing their strengths while navigating their unique challenges.

Let’s Connect

If your teen struggles with accommodations, I’m here to help. Book a 1:1 consultation with me here, and let’s talk about how to make this journey smoother for you and your child. Together, we can find the right balance.

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