Stop Dating One At A Time! The Power of Multitasking

Far From BasYc by G.L. Lambert

How's dating one at a time working out for you? Meet him, start to like him, it doesn't work out (the last step happening AFTER you've already had sex with him). People from school thought you would be cuffed by now... rich husband, pampered, proof that you were always different, but instead of Carrie Bradshaw you're Basica Hell'nah because you don't know what you're doing! How many years will you CONTINUE to waste being a woman who falls fast, gets fucked, then gets sent back outside because her dating tactics are trash?

Year 1: You meet a a nice guy, you vibe, you go on three dates and now feel like he's THE ONE. All the other guys in your phone get ignored or receive dry responses, you're focused on HIM. ...a few months later you're still not in a relationship but this feels like true love.

He tells you that he loves you and you say it back. This is it, you've finally found your person. ...a month after this feeling he suddenly starts acting strange, not time for you, an attitude over nothing. What the fuck is his problem? You stop calling, he stops calling. You cave in and finally go see him-- get fucked, but it's not the same. He once again falls back. You NOW get the hint. It's over...

Year 2: You meet a nice guy, you vibe, you don't want to get hurt so you keep it at the talking stage, not wanting to move too fast. This makes him try HARDER. He's love bombing you, making promises, showing you all the ways he's different from that last guy. You give in, you LOVE that he's fighting to be with you. This feels like THE ONE.

...a few months later you catch him in a lie. He's not who you thought but you're falling for him, so you give him a second chance. ...a few months after that you're going crazy because you know you can't trust him. Lie on top of lie and you have to let go of the man you thought was special. It's over.

Year 3 - Year 5: You've been with an okay guy for two years. He's not someone you would typically date but he's always there for you, isn't a cheater or liar, but something is missing. He's not the best looking, doesn't have much money, and isn't that smart. But he's yours. So you hold on to it because at least he's willing to claim you unlike those last two.

Is this a man you would marry and have kids with? 16 year old you would be like "This guy? Nah. I'm too good for him." But you're older and less confident in what you can pull so you entertain the thought that you could make this man work because you're tired of starting over. Suddenly he's not acting the same. ...the next month he wants to "talk". He's not happy, he needs to work on himself, and he's been depressed for a long time and afraid to tell you. You try to salvage it, but you already know this feeling. It's over.

When a woman dates ONE at a time, trying to hit a home run instead of playing the percentages this is what happens. You strike out, and another year comes off your life. Every year you find one guy, who doesn't work out. Maybe you'll get into a 2 or 4 year relationship, but that doesn't work either. You went from being that vibrant woman in her 20s who literally wasted year after year on men who let you down. Now you're much older, not that much wiser, and still hoping that the next guy who takes you out doesn't waste your time. A woman with Too Much Hope + No Common Sense + A Hard Dick = A Dumb Ass

Ladies, it's time to wise the fuck up and recognize that there are too many inconsistent men to spend months only focused on one.

Category Single (And happy?): I'm talking to you, the one who has been hurt in the past, currently between men, and say you're happy, but the reality is you want a man, are waiting for love, but you haven't done the Spartan work to make yourself a magnet for good men and a deterrent for fuck boys.

Category Taken (And happy?): I'm talking to you, the one who has a guy but is going through drama right now. Hot and cold, not sure if this is going to work, or maybe you're already on a semi-break because of the last incident. You're the type that comes looking for dating advice because you want to "fix" a relationship you pretend isn't broken. You're no better than the single women who pretend to be happy. Both of you lack the mental fortitude to find real love.

"G.L. I'm not dumb, I know he's being sneaky but I'm going to wait." Wait for what, Basica? Him to fuck another girl? For him to leave you? Nah, for him to change his ways so you can salvage that relationship. You're too busy to date multiple men, but you work overtime trying to keep a no good man housetrained. What's for you will be for ONLY you, so why are you chasing after a man who says he loves you but never shows it?

There are so many quality men in this world, every few months I get emails from readers or past women I coached who prove that it's not hard to find your match. But you have to recognize that even the quality men are bias and suspicious. No man wants to accidentally end up with a bird so they test you.

Understand that the game is rigged even before your first date. I don’t care how pretty, smart, or sophisticated you are, men mentally size you up, put you in a box based on other women they’ve known, and treat you a certain way—all based off assumptions. He can't afford to wife up the wrong woman, so he's willing to throw the right ones in the pile with the rest unless she proves she's different, not with words but with actions.

This is why it’s crucial to stand the fuck up, not shrink your personality, and show them exactly who you are, a Spartan who has read my books and knows how to shine her light! The women who imprint themselves as “I’m not like those other bitches,” instead of simply saying it, can’t be labeled, they come off as special, and men will automatically chase. Are you listening yet?

The Grass Is Greener!

Do you realize how many NEW men come onto the dating market each day? There was no one on the apps last week, now some guy who is finally ready to date after a breakup is on there today: Wealthy, handsome, and well trained by his ex to treat a woman the way a woman needs to be treated-- but you're missing out on him because you ONLY want to date "Marcus who took you bowling and made you laugh." Huh?

You're exclusive and loyal to a man that took you out ONCE. You delete your apps, stop eye fucking men in public, and won't answer your DMS because you went out ONCE? You're dicked whipped by potential, because you have a few good conversations with a man who has his own place and no kids. You're off the market while these men are still fucking 2 other women. Are you delusional, slow, or just uneducated in the ways of how a man thinks and operates?

I met a nurse last year who worked crazy shifts, and still found time to get taken out twice a week, and not by the same men. That same woman emailed me a picture of her engagement ring and a thank you. Why? Because I've been telling you all to date multiple men for 10 fucking years. You can't afford to be tired, frustrated, or delete an app just because it's not working. Persistence breeds results! Those of you who have read my books and followed them, not half way, not some times, but like a fucking Spartan-- win.

-Basicas Be Like all I need is nothing bae...

What Men Think Of Overly Loyal Women...

Little Mrs. Basic always thinking about what a man likes never about what's best for you. "I can't date multiple men cus may think I'm a Ho. Men want to see that you're down for them during the dating stage," Of course they do, Basica! They want to know that before they even give you an official title you're going to submit and show him that your pussy is his pussy unconditionally.

AMC popcorn and Facetime calls have calling him "Bae" way before he claims you. You're creaming on his dick as he asks you "who's pussy is this," meanwhile he still as a dating app installed on his phone. You see him as your soul mate. He sees you as seasonal. Pay fucking attention!

Placeholders fall into place based on basic attention, treatment, and words of affection. In the end, they get used up and abandoned with nothing to show for it but trust issues and a cold heart. Ask yourself right now are you a Placeholder still out here wasting her time or a Game Changer that currently has these men wrapped around her finger?

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