Review of It’s OK that You’re Not OK by Megan Devine
This book is exactly what I needed right now. It’s particularly focused on grief that is sudden: the loss of a life partner or a child, not necessarily at the end of a long life. It’s focused on grief-as-a-rupture, where your whole life is completely, viscerally changed as a result of the loss.
This book is a whole new framework for me to understand my grief. It’s about surviving and carrying grief, not ‘getting over it’. I won’t ever get over this. But I can learn to carry it with me.
There are chapters in here for people who want to help the griever, with dos-and-don’ts that are specific and helpful. Right now, in the middle of this very intense, horrible experience, I want to hand this book to literally everyone who is trying to interact with me in any way.
