What is a Personal Belief?
What is a personal belief?
Personal beliefs are something you picked up along the way. Often it wasn’t conscious, it was based on someone’s reaction or interaction with you and the result was that based on our feelings from or about that incident a belief formed.
These beliefs are wired into our brains, often from early childhood experiences or life changing adult experiences. This is why they’re so difficult to change. It’s not just a matter of stay positive and smile until your face hurts… it’s internal biological brain and body wiring.
Most of us learned how form letters or throw a ball when we were little. Now we do those things without thinking. Our personal beliefs about ourselves are much the same way. We think these thought stories without realizing that they are affecting us.
So, if we have this faulty wiring and it’s affecting us through poor self esteem or we don’t want this belief in our life what do we do?
We have to dig. We have to discover. And then we have to examine what we find and feel the things it brings up. Then we have to give ourselves the emotional support we should have received in that moment.
This isn’t easy. It doesn’t feel good. But healing is a little like finding buried treasure. It makes you feel accomplished because you found something that you lost and you can take that treasure and give it a place in your heart where before something was missing. And this empowers you to go digging again.
I talked about how to do this in my last series Author Voice
A little off topic… but below is a video of a horse with a trauma background learning from their new owner that he won’t be punished even though he’s afraid. She’s essentially teaching him a new story. Toward the end where she speeds up the video, the jaw movement, snorts, and ear flicking are the horse processing the new information.
Again the four questions to ask are:
What stories are you listening to?
Who is in charge of those stories?
What do these stories teach you?
How do these stories make you feel?
Perpetual Disclaimer for this series:
I am not a counselor or a mental health professional. I am going to attempt to avoid things which will cause alarm or harm, but I can't know what will trigger each individual. If you need to speak to a mental health professional please know that there are resources available.
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