Findaway Voices/Spotify… why it’s not “Just a Misunderstanding…”
There is a “hysteria” afoot apparently with regards to poorly written TOS contract terms in the new TOS update for Findaway Voices that apparently our feeble lady brains (and yes, men have accounts there, too), must be misunderstanding.
We must just be confused. That black eye was just an accident.
The more time goes on, the more I can see that predatory men are predatory everywhere. It is not just contained to one aspect of their lives. Whether it’s in dating or in business, they engage in the same gaslighting tactics and the ONLY thing they understand is consequences.
In the dating world more and more women are joining forces to either divest entirely from the dating scene altogether or to hold VERY firm strong boundaries and leave at the first red flag.
No longer will we think “Oh maybe I’m misunderstanding” “He probably didn’t mean it that way”, “What does this text message mean?” or obsess about a man’s poor behavior toward us and try to reframe it in the most innocent light possible.
Most men know and expect that woman have been so socially conditioned and trained to take casual abuse that they can get away with things and make a woman look “hysterical” or “too picky” or “you expect too much” or just flat out unreasonable. However, this gaslighting has stopped working on a growing portion of women who understand a red flag early in the dating phases where he is showing you the BEST HE IS CAPABLE OF… that is a sign to cut and run.
Block and delete.
It isn’t that he did the most evil thing anyone could do on a first date, it’s the fact that that red flag slipped through so early and what it indicates. A great example is a man who uses the word “females” EVER. There is no reason for any non-scientist outside of a clinical setting to ever use the word “females” to refer to WOMEN.
Okay so why did I go down this “feminist tangent”, because men are men are men. And sociopathic men who seek to use and abuse are the same whether they are hiding behind romantic overtures or corporate legalese.
The fact is… Findaway has been dishonest with us before. Early on they used to try to pretend they “pay more than Audible” even though their high percentage came OUT OF the paltry percentage we got at Audible, which would pay us EVEN LESS than going direct with Audible. (even now when we opt out of Audible and Apple distribution through their platform they are gaslighting us with “are you sure???” Yes, quite. Thank you.)
They also tried to sneak in a TOS clause we had to opt OUT of (instead of opt in) to use our audiobooks for training AI. Ummmm… why? They knew most authors wouldn’t go along with it if it was opt in.
These large corporations only care about getting what they want, much like abusive men in the dating world who only care if they can get “services” from you… sex, cooking, cleaning, breeding, childcare. They don’t see you as a PERSON worthy and due their respect. Likewise the men hiding in their C Suite offices behind corporations do not care about you or see you or me as people worthy of rights and consideration. Do with that information what you will.
Whereas women in dating are often seen as vending machines of services. With these corporations, we are vending machines to grow their wealth. And the only thing that matters is that they extract from us the resource they seek. To them, all is fair in love and war and they have declared war.
There have been many red flags, but I ignored them. But then, I didn’t have the kind of personal boundaries back then that I have now.
So now THIS red flag shows up, and they scramble to gaslight us and convince us it’s “all a misunderstanding.” The black eye was an accident. It will never happen again.
Honestly, at this point, Spotify, it doesn’t matter if it was an “accident” because you have proven your predatory nature over and over again. Even if they walk this back, I would not trust them, and I will not continue to do business with them.
Currently they have removed our “delete project” button, so we can’t even LEAVE without their permission. Sounds like abuse to me!
They instead want us to email them… despite the fact that they are getting an OVERWHELMING amount of emails due to this current PR nightmare fuck up.
Findaway Voices is not your friend. Even if they “walk this back”, their intent is clear. You don’t stop people from deleting their projects if your intention isn’t malicious.
At this point malfeasance and incompetence lead to the same outcome.
I will be looking into other options like Publish Drive or Author Republic. If neither of those suit my needs I will be taking my audio back to exclusive with Audible. Imagine being such a piece of shit company that you make AUDIBLE look respectful of authors and narrators.
Wow.
But I don’t actually believe it’s a “misunderstanding”. Just like I no longer believe when men try to walk back and gaslight with their red flags in the dating world. Now I listen to my gut. And my gut says… this company will fuck us all over to hell and back the first opportunity they get.
They may walk this back, but they will then just slip all this shit back in into about 20 different clauses in subtle enough ways that they don’t spook the horses.
Well, this horse is running.
Everybody else? Choose wisely who you let in bed with you because some of these companies are carrying some nasty nasty diseases.
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