Why Some People Hate to Live Happily
Some peculiar people feel guilty to live a happy life. This is more true for people of the previous generation, especially women. These women were taught to be sacrificial. They were taught to eat last, sleep last, sacrifice education for their brothers, sacrifice career for their husband, sacrifice sleep and food for their kids, and sacrifice anything that makes them even remotely happy for the “char log” who are always saying something. So if she felt like dancing in the rain, she was asked to stop because “char log kya kahenge?”. I wonder, who these 4 log were? Were they those four people who would carry her dead body to the crematorium?
These women got so used to living in unhappiness that even an ounce of happiness makes them uncomfortable. The worst part is they don’t want others to be happy as well. If they see another happy woman, they just has to do something to make the life of that woman unhappy. These women are stuck in a rut of unhappiness and wants other women also to stay unhappy, unsatisfied, and unsuccessful.
These women never got an opportunity to study. They crib about the lack of opportunity but never try to use the opportunities they have now. There are numerous NGOs, government schools, and even individuals who provide adult education. However, the moment you mention them about this, they will come up with some lame excuse. They do not want to pursue any kind of career or earn anything. Earning money or doing something is not only a means of income but it also gives a woman an identity. However, these women consider earning money something lowly. According to their logic anyone from Mrs. Gandhi to Kalpana Chawla is a “cheap” woman. Because women from “good family” stay at home and cook, clean, and stitch. They are simply unwilling to improve their life conditions. They love to live in darkness and hate those who have made a better life for themselves.
Any woman who cannot cook is a disgrace to them. Ordering food from outside is almost a criminal act. A wife who doesn’t cook for her husband and child is someone who should be banished from the society. These women are even ashamed to eat food. They behave like scavengers eating the leftover food of their husband, sons, and grandchildren. I appreciate that they do not want to waste food but why put extra food on the plate of men? What glory is there in eating leftovers? Once, one of these women told me ” pati ka jhootha khaane se dono mein pyaar badta hai” (eating leftovers from your husband’s plate increases love between the couple). However, one day when my husband picked up food from my plate, the same woman said “pati patni ka jhhotha khane se bimaar pad jaata hain, patni bidhwa ho jaati hain” (if the husband eats leftover, the woman becomes a widow). These women have nothing to look forward to in life apart from some trash TV serials. They keep watching those regressive serials and applaud the cringiest characters. Ekta Kapoor is a wise woman who made an empire out of these women. The other thing these women are obsessed with is diseases. These women are never fine, the moment you ask them how they are. They will read out a menu card of diseases to you. From ulcer to cancer, they have everything. They love talking about being sick because this is the only way they get attention from others.
Anything that can make a person happy is sinful to them. They will only do things that will make their life miserable. I really do not understand the logic behind this masochism. Do you know of anyone who is like this? Do you also feel ashamed to be happy?
