How to Recognize and Deal with Gaslighting

Gaslighting is a type of mental coercion that tries to make people question their own truth and emotions. It can permeate various relationships, be it romantic, familial, friendships, or professional interactions. The gaslighter may employ tactics such as lying, denial of experiences, emotional manipulation, or inducing feelings of guilt or confusion, all to assert control and dominance over the victim.

The repercussions of gaslighting can be profound, impacting mental and physical health significantly. It can cause emotions of worry, sadness, insignificance, and perplexity and even show up in physical problems such as sleep issues, headaches, or tiredness. Thus, recognising the signs of gaslighting is crucial for safeguarding one’s mental and physical well-being.

Signs Indicating Gaslighting

Gaslighting often exhibits several telltale signs:

Persistent self-doubt and questioning of one’s memory.Feeling confused, insecure, or lacking in self-assurance.Assuming undue blame or offering apologies for circumstances beyond one’s control.A sense of isolation, loneliness, or being misunderstood.Difficulty in making decisions or trusting personal judgment.Overwhelming feelings of guilt, shame, or unworthiness.Altering behaviour or personality to please the gaslighter.Feeling constantly on edge around the gaslighter.

If any of these signs resonate with your experiences, recognising and acknowledging the presence of gaslighting is the first step towards reclaiming control over your life.

Strategies to Confront Gaslighting

Dealing with gaslighting demands a concerted effort to regain confidence and autonomy:

Trust your instincts and perceptions. Your feelings are valid, and you’re not “crazy.”Document instances of gaslighting, maintaining a journal or recording conversations, which can serve as evidence when confronting the gaslighter.Assert boundaries and communicate your thoughts and feelings without fear of suppression or guilt.Seek support from trusted individuals or professionals who can provide validation, guidance, and emotional support.If feasible and safe, consider ending the relationship if the gaslighter refuses to change their behaviour or if the abuse escalates.

Remember, you have the right to be respected understood and to live free from manipulation and control.

Recommended Resources for Further Understanding

For those seeking additional insights into gaslighting and its effects, these books could be beneficial:

“Gaslighting: How to Recognise Manipulative and Emotionally Abusive People – and Break Free” by Stephanie Sarkis.“Gaslighting” by Stephanie Moulton Sarkis.“Gaslighting & Narcissistic Abuse Recovery: Recover from Emotional Abuse, Recognise Narcissists & Manipulators and Break Free Once and for All” by Don Barlow.

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