Pettiness is Ugliness.

     You can be the very picture of gorgeous from the point of view of all men and women, but if your actions tell the truth about who you really are, and you're both negative and petty-minded, then you're about as ugly as an old wretched witch with all warts and scars. You're just not very attractive if you have to stoop to calling someone's would-be employer to spread lies and rumors just because that agency offered your friend a position, and you didn't accept it when you were offered it!!  YOU are the most petty, most ugly, and most unattractive person on the face of the Earth.  I can only say, that I hope Jesus is truly in your heart so you can run (not walk) to Him both to repent and to seek His help.

    Basically what happened, and I won't be going into any real detail so that the person who I'm speaking of is not outed for the true pathetic soul that she is; even though I'm really not happy with her, I don't want anything bad to happen to her. She needs to fall on her face and repent, but that's never going to happen. She's one of those who either never accepted Jesus, or she did (which is what I pray) and she denies His power. Day after day, night after night, month and year, over and over I've had to constantly remind her of her value. I'm the ONLY ONE reminding her,  her own family has given up on her; she's given up on herself. Now, sadly, even I have to give her up--for my own personal safety and health.

    I will continue to lift her in prayer, and you should do that. If someone is suffering this much, you pray more for them. I won't call her, contact her, communicate with her, or even care anymore - - I'm so done. What I will do is hope she finds the courage and strength she needs to stop being petty and to stop hurting people who reach out to strengthen her. Maybe she can stop hating herself long enough to try to better herself; I don't know. I just know I am exhausted from the many thousands of attempts I've given.

    This afternoon, right after I unfriended the woman on FB for being so damned negative no matter what suggestions I made, or encouraging words I gave, I received a phone call from an agency that had promised me employment. I wasn't to start until 12/4 but I was still promised the position. This was a position I was overqualified for, and the agency director knew it, but she was willing to hire me and move me up in the ranks quickly. That was the plan until I accepted work at another company and I'll start a bit sooner. 

    The phone call came from the agency supervisor, telling me that they were rescinding my employment offer after receiving a disturbing intel call from someone claiming that I had been deceptive on my application. When I asked if she could give me any specific details I was told no; but they would rescind the offer until they could either verify what I had said, or I could call the director and make an appointment to come in to discuss it.  I agreed that I may still come in and discuss my application, just to clear my name, but that I was going to call the director on Monday to say I had accepted another position. I was just waiting for the beginning of the week to roll around.

    All's well that ends well, right? So, when the caller let me know who it was that called, she said the coward refused to give her name, but the lady told me the phone number the caller used. Bingo! Can you believe in 2023 people think they can call and their number isn't going to be recorded? Oh...yes, it is technology, so maybe she didn't understand it. I'm not the best at tech, believe me, but I do know that Caller ID is a real thing.

    My prayers go up for this woman because she is skillless, she has no real talent in a professional sense, and it is rather hard for her to be employed. She was a teacher for years but hasn't kept up with tech, and if a student berates her she comes completely unglued. She was accepted at the same agency I was accepted at, but she felt the workload would be too stressful and she turned them down; maybe she's thinking she can oust me and get the opportunity to do it...OK...have fun. I'm considering going in to talk to the director because I won't tolerate my name or reputation being soiled.  That sort of thing bothers me. I just wish petty people would think before acting. Most of the time when we strike out like that, we just end up hurting ourselves.

    Bottomline - - she lost a good friend. She also lost two other friends who she may have thought would side with her, but they don't, and my kids won't speak to her either. After twenty-five years of having to drag her to the mirror to show her she's pretty, and having to buck her up constantly when she's told she's not qualified to take the simplest of jobs -- I'm done. I've suggested that she learn Xactimate, that she learn Excel, simple things to bring her skillsets up - - nothing. Crickets. She prefers her bottle of wine and her other whine - - not for me. I'm a doer, not a whiner. I'm a doer, not a wisher. I'm a doer, and that upsets her. She's a wisher, wanna-be; the type who sits back and spews at anyone who achieves. 

    Pettiness is ugliness. Don't be petty. If someone hurts you, write it off. If someone needs prayers...give them.  This too, shall pass. It's just going to pass a lot more positively and a lot less negatively.

    

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