The Danger of an “It’s not me, It’s you” Attitude

Have you ever said to yourself, “If they were different, my life would be better”?

Even if there is truth to the statement, where does it leave you?

When the power for change is outside of yourself, it doesn’t leave you with many productive options.

You could waste your whole life imagining how different things could be if a certain person changed the way he or she acted. However, when all is said and done, the only thing that you can change is you.

In Fierce Accountability, we explore the idea of falling into the victim cycle. We all dip our toe into the water of victimhood, it’s normal. However, immersing yourself in it can be destructive. Having an “It’s not me, it’s you” attitude is how many people get stuck living in victim.

When we place all of the blame and ownership outside of ourselves, it puts action out of reach. The first step in moving away from this attitude, and holding yourself capable of changing a situation, is to acknowledge you’re in the victim cycle.

Then, assuming you don’t like the results living in victim is producing, identify actions you can take to begin shifting the outcome. And then do it!

Is there a current situation in your life where the “It’s not me, it’s you” attitude is holding you hostage?

What steps can you take to change things for yourself?