Why I hate Jonathon Franzen, reason #45

Mrs. Toczko’s letter, Franzen explained, was essentially about “how terrible it is to have your story taken away from you.” The death of Mrs. Toczko’s son was an enormous part of her life, and it had become “basically one column in a New Yorker piece kind of about—well, very much about someone else.” On stage in New York, Franzen took out the envelope that still held Mrs. Toczko’s letter, and said that even today he could not read it. He wanted to show it to the audience, though, “out of respect for Mrs. Toczko, but also out of inescapable shame of being a storyteller, of taking control of a story like that.”

By this point in Franzen’s story I was no longer thinking of Chris Toczko. I was thinking of David Foster Wallace. The essay Franzen had published two weeks earlier was about Wallace, who had committed suicide two and a half years before. And that essay, called “Farther Away,” was also about “taking control of a story”: In it, Franzen attempts to correct the “adulatory public narratives” of Wallace and his death.
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When it comes to Wallace, Franzen is, in some respects, in Mrs. Toczko’s position. He was personally close to him, while most of us fans and readers who have written and spoken about Wallace since his death were not. (At the beginning of “Farther Away,” Wallace’s wife, Karen Green, gives Franzen some of Wallace’s ashes to scatter on the island he is headed to on vacation.) But he was also competitive with Wallace—their friendship, he acknowledges in the essay, was one “of compare and contrast and (in a brotherly way) compete.” (Another reason I was thinking about Wallace: Both “Farther Away” and the Chris Toczko story are about a rival who died.) And beyond simply refuting “the benignant and morally clairvoyant artist/saint” image that arose around Wallace after his death, Franzen insinuates fairly terrible things about his friend, without explaining those insinuations to his readers.

For instance: “I will pass over the question of diagnosis (it’s possible he was not simply depressive) and the question of how such a beautiful human being had come by such vividly intimate knowledge of the thoughts of hideous men.” Of course, Franzen hasn’t really passed over the question of diagnosis; he has explicitly raised it, while also implying that Wallace had to have been like the “hideous men” in his fiction (as though he were incapable of otherwise imagining such hideousness).

Elsewhere, Franzen says Wallace’s suicide was “calculated to inflict maximum pain on those he loved most.” More than once, Franzen suggests that Wallace had deliberately gone “the Kurt Cobain route” and “chosen the adulation of strangers over the love of the people closest to him.” He says that “infantile rage and displaced homicidal impulses [were] visible in certain particulars of his death.” What those “certain particulars” were, Franzen doesn’t say. And I don’t personally feel any deep need to know what they were. But if you are going to make, in print, what is essentially an accusation, you should, I think, provide some evidence for it. (To be honest, I wonder why no editor at the New Yorker insisted as much.) Otherwise, you are not only seizing control of the story, you’re keeping much of that story for yourself.

This is the other reason “Farther Away” feels like a betrayal of the ethics of storytelling as Franzen sketched them on that stage in New York. Defending himself from Mrs. Toczko’s letter, he says:

I was just doing what a writer does, right? I was telling a story, trying to make sense of my life, and passing it along in hopes that it might resonate with other people, and, you know, there’s sort of an exchange of gifts going on here. And it’s my job to give gifts like that. And yet in that envelope was somebody’s painful report on the price of seizing control of the story.

Perhaps Franzen intended “Farther Away” as a similar report. Perhaps he felt that “those who read [Wallace’s] Kenyon College commencement address in the Wall Street Journal and mourned the loss of a great and gentle soul” had unfairly seized the story of his friend. And because there were so many such people, he could not simply write a letter, as Mrs. Toczko had done, but instead had to write an essay for the New Yorker, one that was published the same week as The Pale King, Wallace’s last, unfinished novel. But reading that essay again, between the hard covers of Franzen’s own latest book, it does not feel like a gift.

 -  Slate: Jonathan Franzen’s “Farther Away” is marred by his anger about David Foster Wallace

Upon first reading, I wanted to share this because...well, because I wanted to bring up the question of whether you can still really love someone's writing while also thinking that they're a huge dick (and I do, in fact, think that Franzen is a pompous, arrogant asshole, EVEN THOUGH! I keep trying to give him credit because it's hard for me to believe that Wallace would count such a prick as a best friend, so there HAS to be something good about the guy, right? And yet he just keeps proving that wrong).

But on further review, a deeper issue kept tugging at my brain, and one that I've been wrassling with since I first set about writing books: When the experience is shared with others, how much of that story is yours to tell?

I struggle with this a lot in the writing of THE SPACE YOU TAKE. In HOLIDAY CHICK, I was able to largely skirt the issue by making the book fiction. While there are shades of biographical characteristics and events, they are largely distorted in order to protect everyone else in the book who is not me. THE SPACE YOU TAKE, though...it has to be the truth. And how do you do that, when the entire story centers around people who are no longer here to speak for themselves? And especially when the things you need to tell about are not all things that they would gladly share themselves? How do you honor their memory - and more importantly, the memory that others still hold of them - while also honoring the trust from the audience that you're going to tell the truth?  In the writing of it, I think I've got it figured out...we'll see whether I accomplished my goal, though, when it's done. But at least now I have a cautionary tale of what not to do...how claiming to write a story to "try to make sense of my life" can come off as simply stealing the memory of someone else's someone for personal gain and notoriety. 
I'm aware that this is probably the first and maybe only "I don't wanna do what Franzen did" statement made in our current literary culture. But I don't. 
Because that guy is a dick.