Validate Me!
WHY DO WE CARE WHAT OTHERS THINK OF US?
Maybe you think that winning the lottery and having tons of money will prove your worth? Or perhaps becoming a big business executive with a flashy suit and a corner office with a view of the city will do the trick. Will that finally show them? Show them all that you’re better? That you’re not average like the rest of us?
Maybe someone will take a picture of you and post it all over the internet like “Ridiculously Photogenic Guy” and you’ll become famous just because of your beautiful face! They won’t be laughing then.
Maybe if you cut your hair like that girl from that movie and you color it like that other girl; maybe if you buy those jeans and drive that car and live in that house you will finally be seen for who you really are!
I know, you should invest in that expensive make-up that will make you look years younger! Buy those shoes that what’s-her-face has and then go out on the town and let everyone see how fabulous you are! Then you can post pics of that new fabulous you all over facebook. Then surely everyone will know how wonderful you really are and you’ll get 100′s of likes on your facebook page!
But then, why do you care? Do you want a pat on the back? An award? Your picture on the front page of the New York Times with a four page story outlining why everyone should know and love you?
Why do we work so hard to feel validated by people we don’t even know? Stop looking outside of yourself for proof that you are awesome. If you are reading this right now, let me save you the anguish of breaking your back trying to impress the world. YOU ARE AWESOME. WHY? BECAUSE. JUST BECAUSE.
Stop trying so hard to entertain the world; do what makes YOU happy. If you are doing something, anything that doesn’t involve your own personal happiness, then you should evaluate why you are doing it at all.
Now take a deep breath and relax. There is a plan for you. Stop trying to force it. It will come when its time. In the meantime, consider yourself validated just for being you.
