Overthinking rejection

I recently went for something and was not chosen.

This is a part of life. I wonder if others go into a sort of ruminating trance about it, like I do?

“What’s wrong with me?” That speaks to my mental tracks of unworthiness.

“What did I do wrong, what could I have done to have a different outcome?”

“Why not me?”

After all of the friends and family members condolences run out, you are left with your own thoughts.

“What could I have done differently?”

“What was the reason I was not chosen over someone else?”

“Was it experience? Heart? My outfit?”

It is a good practice once in a while to challenge our own dark ways of thinking. To reject the practice of beating ourselves up for something we said, a decision we made or an action we took.

After all, once said or done, there is no turning back time and it is not changeable, only managed somehow if we choose.

“It’s a part of life.”

“It wasn’t meant to be.”

“It’s a lesson.”

Little sayings that help us deal with what is.

Truth: We do not have disappointment unless we reach. We do not see and feel failure unless we have actually tried to do something.

There is a bravery in that, that we need to acknowledge, and be proud of.

I feel like getting a new job or going for an opportunity is a lot like falling in love.

You need two active willing participants, thinking and committing to align with each other for the same campaign, at the same time.

Sometimes the timing is just off. It wasn’t necessarily because someone was a bad person, or unworthy or incapable of doing something, it is simply a matter of the timing. Exact and similar timing is what brings things together.

Yes, there are other circumstances, such as education requirements, locality and overall values. But all things being equal it is just the luck of the draw and pure timing that puts things in place.

So, today I will settle in and know that I tried. I gave what I had and knew; and will continue my giving and reaching for bigger things.

Seems to me that the point in life is to become a better person than you were the day before.

It is to learn and grow with what challenges and disappointments come your way.

And grabbing tight to the incredible successes and the joy that comes beyond measure.

I sit listening to the rain on the window in a quiet spot.

I gave it a try. And I am proud of myself. I will try to cut myself more slack next time I am rejected.

~It wasn’t meant to be.

~It’s just a part of life.

But I won’t let that won’t stop me. I will always keep stretching.