What A Dom Taught Me About BDSM Power

Years ago, in my very early twenties, I was hungry for a daddy figure. I didn’t grow up with one that was present. Outside the home, there were few older male examples to look up to. Whether caring father or supportive coach, I craved it, all of it. So, being the resourceful young queer I was, I used Manhunt and Bear411 (yes, it was that long ago) to find one. And I did- well, sort of.

I met this guy, we’ll call him Brad. He was in his mid 40’s, and I was barely 21, if even. He was everything I w...