How to Change Your Spouse in One Simple Step

Char and I have been married for 32 years now. I’ve had to do a lot of repenting for how I treated her in the early years.

I married Char, in part, because she’s so different from me. I somehow knew that I needed those differences. I’m task-oriented; she’s relational. I’m in a hurry; she’s not. In a thousand ways, she provides a helpful and needed counterpart to my tendencies. I’m so much better for having her in my life.

The problem is that some of those differences started to grate at me. I see ...