Forgiveness and Contrition

My thoughts in writing require me to inquire into my and others understanding of the universe. How else will I develop characters?

We are often asked to forgive a person for some sort of infraction against us or for a horrific act against society. We discuss in the press major actions and how some forgive and some are driven to rage and revenge. Because we are aware that holding anger is harmful to ourselves, we try to forgive. If we love the other and are near the other, forgiveness makes sense for the continuation of the relationship. This also holds true in friendships. One question I have is the difficulty of forgiving when in my heart I do not believe the other is contrite. I know I should just forgive and let go, but, but, it’s not that easy.

That question makes me examine the elements of contrition. Supposedly it includes a readiness to admit to unkindness or wrongdoing, and a readiness to avoid inflicting pain of this type again, and some expression of contriteness.

Can I forgive if the other is mouthing words and their expression of contriteness cannot convince me of their good intentions? It is difficult, but not forgiving tells me I want to hurt back. Therefore, I must forgive. However, I do not have to forget the behavior. I should do what is necessary to avoid presenting myself in situations I believe may invite the other to continue negative past behaviors. Intelligent forgetting may be important and I am practicing. It seems I do a lot of practicing while my characters exact revenge.