What every parent should know before having kids

Parenting is hard. Really really hard.

The majority of us who decide on having children aren’t aware of how much it takes to raise another human being.

How can you know if you never experienced it? You can’t.

Yes, people over 20 are called adults but does anyone know what they are doing with their lives?!

Now imagine you probably haven’t healed your own childhood wounds and traumas, you too need better self-discipline and habits, you are throwing tantrums here and there, and maybe you are anxious and sometimes even depressed.

Now you are going to have a child who will be a little twin of yours because kids learn everything from their parents and surroundings.

They will become your mirror and will show you all the parts that you like in yourself. But most importantly they will show you all the parts that you dislike, try to hide, run from, or disapprove.

You’ll think your kids are doing something wrong, that they are ‘bad’. You might even resent them. In reality, they are just showing you your own self.

The list is huge of why parenting is challenging.

No kid will ever trigger you as your own will.

That’s why it’s crucial to do your own spiritual work and healing before having a child.

Generational traumas need to be broken.

First of all, raise yourself before you try to raise another human being.

And if you already have a child it’s never too late. You start healing now.

Any time you can start over, forgive yourself and make better choices.

You didn’t know better before.

Now you know better.

And when you know better you do better.

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