My #1 Red Flag in Relationships

Hi my friends,

In last week’s post, I shared that I recently had some time on vacation to reflect on life and the lessons that have come my way over the past few years. Last week, I talked about the top lesson I’ve learned from relationships, and this week, I want to share what I consider to be my biggest red flag in relationships.

The term “red flag” has been extra buzzy lately. Relationships are a huge part of our lives and greatly impact our emotional state and well-being, so makes sense that we’d want to be on alert to look out for any signs or symptoms of a relationship that’s not aligned with who we are and what we want, as early as possible.

I think that everyone has their own beliefs and opinions on what could be considered a red flag in a relationship, but again, after some recent reflection time, I’ve nailed down my personal #1. For me, this is the make or break in any kind of relationship, and when it’s lacking, it changes everything.

My #1 relationship red flag is: poor communication.

What I’ve discovered about myself and my relationships is that I can likely handle *most* things that come my way. Life is hard, we all know that , and there will always be curve balls and mishaps along the way. The thing that makes life’s difficulties even more challenging and hurtful is poor communication, or even lack of communication all together.

Clear and honest communication is the bedrock of relationships. I am always striving to cultivate relationships where I can speak openly and freely about my desires, needs, and wants, while hoping that the other people in my life feels free to do the same. I find so much relief, peace, power, and clarity when communication is clear.  So, when there is a breakdown or lack of communication, it all starts to fall apart.

When communication isn’t open and clear, it leaves room for ruminating, story telling, anxiety, unnecessary stress, and resentment. And in this stage of my life, I wish to cultivate relationships that hold as little of all of that as possible!

So these days, I look for ease of communication as a sign of a healthy, meaningful relationship. Can the people in my life talk to me? Can I vulnerably talk to them? If yes, I find so much joy and fulfillment, and I feel a deep connection.

I would love to know if this resonates with you, and I’d also love to hear what some of your red flags in relationships are! Let me know in the comments below!

xo, Michelle

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