Recommended Reading #92: Relationship, Pt. III
"Pay No Attention to That Relationship Behind the Curtain!" by Krista Haapala (Sociology, Psychology, Self-Awareness, Consciousness) 3/12/12
I really like how the author points out that certain relationship workings have not tended to be trotted out as "sexy" by our culture. Her observations about what has often seemed to work in relationship resonate with me, and I appreciate her sharing this.
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"Say What's Not Being Said: Reid's Formula for Difficult Conversations" by Reid Mihalko (Psychology, Self-Awareness, Communication) 3/20/12
This strikes me as not only an important concept but also filled with helpful and supportive invitations. I agree that consistently not sharing to or hiding things from people out of fear is ultimately not helpful to either party or the relationship. I also, however, appreciate the tone and straightforwardness of this piece, which I interpret as acknowledging the difficulty behind such an action in the first place. And I find Reid's "script" (even if it's just used as an exercise to clarify one's own perception before offering from a place of immediacy/spontaneity) a fascinating and encouraging suggestion and potential tool.
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"How Pegging Can Help Save The World" by Dr. Charlie Glickman (Psychology, Sex and Gender, Interaction) 1/6/12
This offering: "For men who have never been on the receiving side of penetration, sex is something that happens outside the body" struck me as fascinating in that way things sometimes have when they seem obvious, but I recognize they have never occurred to me before. What an interesting point! On whole I adore this post, which strikes me as profoundly caring, relevant, and insightful.
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