There is beauty in vulnerability

 We often talk about what a woman needs in a man, but very few of us wish to know what a man needs in a woman. A man is also a human, especially one who has been barred from emotions and inculcated to be a pillar of a household that he often forgets that he has needs, too. That he could be weak, too. Men feel too much but say too little. They tend to hide their vulnerabilities and it is so difficult for them to open up, let alone to a woman they assume they’re meant to protect. The role of a savior is often pre-designated to them. You can expect a woman to cry over petty things, but not a man. And that is so absurd. 

Men have complexities, insecurities, capabilities, and weaknesses. They too have many sides, each of which needs to be respected, accepted and loved. They should be complimented and should be treated and pampered as one’s own. A woman could also be a shoulder when a man needs one. 

I just want to say that there is no need to conceal yourself behind your armour. I know men have dark parts too. They have reasons for which they are addicted or the secrets that they don’t want to share. Each one of us does. It is a basic human attribute to pile up things inside you and saute it until it burns you, but it is also a human attribute to fight against it. Men need to be supported too. They have feelings, privacy and space with which they should be adorned. 

If it is essential to know what a woman is going through, it is equally essential to know what a man is going through. It is necessary to sit with him in silence if he avoids certain topics. If he wishes to hold you out of the blue, maybe he needs your affection, too.

It is not always the man who needs to walk on the busy side of the road, pay for your food, massage your forehead or open the car door for you. They deserve these little things too. I know a few men who are sensitive, rarely express themselves but once they open up to you, they are small babies who need to be hugged every once in a while, love to eat whatever you cook for them, binge watch on seasons of their favourite show leaving the accounting beside, love to dance and step on one’s toes, love to bake and burn the cake in the oven. Give them time. They’re indeed the most beautiful humans when they show you who they really are, but sadly, they aren’t aware of it yet.

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