Abuse

People who grew up in an abusive household will explain you well how abuse isn’t abuse anymore and you’ll find their excuses to be so convincing that abuse will hide its true character under the blanket of blindness.
There’s a girl I know. She has been brought up by people who believed that parents have the right and it is their utmost duty to take decisions for their children. This girl, I am talking about, is very impertinent and never bows down to touch feet of the people she doesn’t respect. This girl, I am talking about, is the one who points out her mother on every occasion of her incapacity to stand up for her kids and often becomes the reason for her mother's misery. She argues with her father and screams as loud as she can because she knows that people who inculcate to victimize themselves are indeed abusers to find excuses to convince themselves of being true to their deeds.
Such children when they were kids, they had a very narrow understanding of what goes on behind the doors, of what actually happened to them when someone their own touched them, of what the hand which went down their butt in a fair meant because no one taught them so. They aren’t aware of what abuse looks like because everything they ever experienced is unhealthy and that pattern became so usual that it stopped standing out for them.
When they grew into adults who actually knew the ugly part of what they assumed their happy childhood, they felt disgusted. They hated their own selves for letting that happen to them, for being quiet in the times when they should have slapped the other person around. These people, if you look closely, stay away from everyone, including the ones who might be healthy for them, because the shadows are so imprinted that they carry a darkness around them. They tend to stay away from men, from any sorts of physical affection let alone be a hug, run away whenever those silly tears escape their eyes or their heart gets attached to someone because they have a defence mechanism. It is not to let anyone close, for the close ones are the ones who made them this way. They have a heart of rock.
What I meant to say is that when you meet such people and find them overly protective, know that they do so because they had no one to protect the innocence they now look for. I hope you never but if you fall in love with such a girl, don’t love her before you understand her because a girl is much more than love. She has the right to call you out, say no or fight you if she wishes to because she never had you protecting her before, because you let her guard down, because you’re the only one who makes her vulnerable. If you don’t have the capacity of accepting her as a whole, please walk out of that door. 
Pic Credits: Pinterest