PODCAST: How We Love–Attachment Styles and Marriage with the Yerkovichs!
This month on the blog we’re talking all about attachment styles. So often we think that our marriage problems are about communication, or habits, or normal conflicts. But what if they’re rooted in how we learned to connect with people?
And even more importantly–what if, by understanding our own love style, we can actually grow?
Today on the Bare Marriage podcast I was thrilled to interview Milan and Kay Yerkovich, the authors of the book How We Love!
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Timeline of the Podcast
0:10 Announcments
1:25 Interview with the Yerkovichs
3:10 Explaining the origins
9:30 The 5 Imprints/Connectors
39:30 How Connectors Collide & How to work through things
50:40 Everything you can find at HowWeLove.com !
Last week I wrote about our love styles, and so many of you told me you found this concept so helpful. So I know you’re going to love this podcast! It’s all based on the book How We Love:
See it on Amazon! In the podcast, Milan and Kay walk us through what attachment styles mean, and then talk about what the five love styles are like.
They then show us how understanding our love styles can help us grow in our marriage, and can help us finally feel connected to our spouse. Plus we can put an end to all those recurring fights we so often have!
And you’re going to love their role play!
We also talked about what to do if one person wants to explore this and thinks it has merit, but the other spouse doesn’t want to look into it. So good!
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Do you know your love style? Have you found this discussion of attachment theory helpful for your marriage? Let’s talk in the comments!
The Attachment SeriesPOSTS:The 4 Attachment Styles and what that means in parenting and marriageDo We Have to Tell Kids They're Dirty Rotten Sinners?Your Kids' Attachment Issues Doesn't Mean It's Your FaultOur 5 Love Styles and How This Affects MarriageHow to Start Identifying Your Own Emotions and Learn to Express them (coming soon)How to Help Kids Identify their Emotions and Express Them (coming soon)PODCASTS:PODCAST: Attached to God--how does our attachment style to God affect our relationship with Him?PODCAST: Our Love Styles with Mila and Kay Yerkovich PODCAST: What is connected parenting (last segment of podcast) plus how research around spanking is misused!PODCAST: How can we raise securely attached kids?
Sheila Wray Gregoire Founder of To Love, Honor and Vacuum
Sheila is determined to help Christians find BIBLICAL, HEALTHY, EVIDENCE-BASED help for their marriage. And in doing so, she's turning the evangelical world on its head, challenging many of the toxic teachings, especially in her newest book The Great Sex Rescue. She’s an award-winning author of 8 books and a sought-after speaker. With her humorous, no-nonsense approach, Sheila works with her husband Keith and daughter Rebecca to create podcasts and courses to help couples find true intimacy. Plus she knits. All the time. ENTJ, straight 8 FacebookTwitter Related Posts On Modesty: We Shouldn’t Sacrifice Teen Girls’ Well-Being for Adult Men’s ComfortMay 13, 2022 | 85 Comments
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