Reader Question of the Week: What Should This Frustrated Husband Do?
Every Thursday, I'm going to try to answer a reader question in video format, and do a "vLog". On the weekends, though, I'd like to throw up a question someone sends in and let you readers have a go at it. Last week we talked about menopause and sex, and there's some great resources in the comments!
This week we've got a different type of question, from men this time. I received several emails from men saying almost the same thing, so I'm going to combine two into one to disguise any identifying features, and throw this up for you. What would you say to the men who ask things like this? I get more email like this than any other kind:
My wife is always (a) too tired, (b) not interested, (c) grumpy, or (d) wants to watch TV, do sudoku puzzles, lay in bed with the kids, etc. I swear, sex in our house is like a space shuttle launch! The windows for liftoff are extremely rare, and there is always a reason to postpone.
Honestly, I doubt my wife would even read your blog. When I've tried to get her to read stuff like that, or books in the past, she just snaps back that she "can find stuff on the internet that agrees says [she] is right." She also says her friends make love with their husbands once a month or less, and those guys never complain–very helpful influence, those ladies. (I wish she could hang out with you instead.) I have no idea what to do to make my wife understand how lonely I am. I believe Ephesians 5 that I am to love her, and I try my best to be selfless, but if I am affectionate in any way she pulls away.
Most people would think from the outside that we have a good marriage. We're really involved with the kids; we're really involved at church; I have a good job. But sex is almost non-existent.
I just wish my wife cared, if not for me, at least for our kids and what we're teaching them about marriage.
Just answer in the comments! And if you want to send me a question, the easiest way is through my Facebook Page! You can send direct messages through there. Or you can click the contact button above.
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