Principles of Harmony: Simplicity of Being

The problem with the concept of love in this world, is that it is obscure and means something different for everyone. Everybody wants to be loved "despite themselves". I think that the generally accepted definition of love can be described by the act of "I will love you even when I do not like you."

Love gives you that safe space to be unlikable, because within that safe space, although you are unlikable (for whatever reasons; perhaps because you are a tyrant, a devil, immature, impossible to reason with, so on and so forth...), you are still loved and the other person has assured you they will never leave you.

This is a big problem. We have become hyper-romanticized as a species. And we have chosen hyper-moral roles that outweigh natural needs. Nobody should need to live with a person they have grown to dislike.

Sure, you may love someone (or may be loved by someone); pointing to shared time and investment and promises as proof of that love, but at the end of the day, if you dislike the person you are living with every day; can love really be the remedy? Or has it become more like the quicksand?

Fixating our attention on hyper-moralized roles and hyper-romanticized ideals, we have neglected the very natural requirement for being in the proximity of another person: that we must like them. I, for one, have no wishes to be near individuals whom I do not like. But this is more than something merely petty; this is a basic principle of harmony: we cannot be with people whom we do not like. You can love someone and at the same time not stand to live with them or be with them. You cherish the time, the investment, and the memories; but the current reality is making it obvious you really don't like them anymore. Now, this is very important. If you feel alone, abused, misused, malaligned, deceived, overlooked, insignificant or misled, in the presence of your significant other; chances are, the constant exposure to these feelings has resulted in you no longer liking them.

You could say, "But I love them and this is what love means", fair enough, but if we are to remove the hyper-moral and hyper-romantic lenses through which you've been conditioned to see, you would feel equally justified in asking yourself, "But do I still like them?"

The reality is; once we no longer like someone we have professed to love, our living conditions become unbearable because it is the natural urge of the living being to disconnect from what it is we do not like! And this natural urge is there for a reason: to save our lives!

So, I want you to ask yourselves if you still like the person who you love. If not, then ask yourselves, for how long now have you disliked them? This is a very simple train of thought that can save countless lives and countless minds. Not only the lives and minds of the couples directly involved; but of the children involved as well. Do you still like the person you love? Be brave enough to ask yourself this question.