The Courage To Receive

For a very long time, during my earlier years, I felt that being desired was the most valuable aspect in attraction and romantic relationships. I spotted value in the feeling of someone else being desirous of me.

But now I know that far greater in value is the capability to give, the willingness to give, the ability to give. Predators desire their prey but is that of any value to the prey? Of course not. It is, in fact, the prey's downfall to be desired.

Someone wanting to give to you, wanting to add more to your life, wanting to put more into your basket, wanting to make more space within themselves for you: this is value. This is what's valuable, this is where it's at!

Someone desirous of you can consume you, eat you alive, feed on you, until you're half dead and the only thing keeping you alive is the longing to continue feeling desired by that person. It's the dark path of attraction, the cold cellar of a relationship.

Run away from that. Be brave enough to question if and what another person is able to give to you and how much they want to give it. Be brave enough to consider that you might be worth everything someone wants to give you, and then even more!