Getting Hit On on Goodreads

I'm sure I'm not the only woman to have this problem. I'm an author and usually default to accepting most friend requests. Every single time I have accepted a friend request from a man, they have immediately followed up with a personal message wanting to get to know me.

They don't ask about books or anything reading related. They compliment my looks (not books) or start off with an innocuous, 'how's it going' message that escalates.

I have never received anything similar from another woman. It has gotten to the point, I reject most friend requests from men. Occasionally, I accept one if it looks like the man has an active reading list, but every time I still get the personal message.

I'm to the point, I will refuse any and all friend requests from men, which I hate to do.

Goodreads is NOT a dating site.