Do you want to succeed or do you want to fail? And how to know the difference.
Easiest way to find our if you want to succeed or fail is to ask yourself, preferably while looking at yourself in the mirror, "Do you want to succeed or do you want to fail? Another way is to have someone ask you and then check your reactions. Same goes for in the mirror, keep track of your honest internal and external reaction.
Many times in the past, I've felt the need to ask mentee's and myself this question. The question gains two common truth responses, anger and joy. Which one comes instantly to the surface is the truth. Other reactions also appear.
In this moment you might be asking yourself, "Why would someone want to fail?", "Why wouldn't someone want to succeed?" or "Why wouldn't I want ME to succeed?" The answer is about self-worth.
The answers around self-worth can be a deep dive into shadows and pasts that we do not want to look at. The parts of ourselves that we hide, repress, and deny. If we refuse to be honest with ourselves around these shadows, then the shadows rule the roost, run the show, and cause us to sabotage ourselves.
Examples, "I don't deserve to succeed.", "I am afraid to succeed.", "I suck." all great versions of subconscious reasons we prevent ourselves from our obtaining version of success. All rooted in paste events and teachings. Somewhere we learned that it is dangerous to succeed, that if I am seen I am in danger, money is the root of all evil, or something entirely different. As a man named Morris Massey used to say and teach, "We are who we were, when." In other words, our actions now are reactions from past experiences.
I believe it is up to us to do the personal work, look at the shadows, hold them out in front of us and say, "Here you are. I see you now." Sometimes we can do this on our own, other times we need the help of others, ie professionals.
Good luck. I wish you the best personal success. Specifically when looking in the mirror and asking, "Do I want to succeed or do I want to fail." and doing the work until you get a giant grin as a response.
Many times in the past, I've felt the need to ask mentee's and myself this question. The question gains two common truth responses, anger and joy. Which one comes instantly to the surface is the truth. Other reactions also appear.
In this moment you might be asking yourself, "Why would someone want to fail?", "Why wouldn't someone want to succeed?" or "Why wouldn't I want ME to succeed?" The answer is about self-worth.
The answers around self-worth can be a deep dive into shadows and pasts that we do not want to look at. The parts of ourselves that we hide, repress, and deny. If we refuse to be honest with ourselves around these shadows, then the shadows rule the roost, run the show, and cause us to sabotage ourselves.
Examples, "I don't deserve to succeed.", "I am afraid to succeed.", "I suck." all great versions of subconscious reasons we prevent ourselves from our obtaining version of success. All rooted in paste events and teachings. Somewhere we learned that it is dangerous to succeed, that if I am seen I am in danger, money is the root of all evil, or something entirely different. As a man named Morris Massey used to say and teach, "We are who we were, when." In other words, our actions now are reactions from past experiences.
I believe it is up to us to do the personal work, look at the shadows, hold them out in front of us and say, "Here you are. I see you now." Sometimes we can do this on our own, other times we need the help of others, ie professionals.
Good luck. I wish you the best personal success. Specifically when looking in the mirror and asking, "Do I want to succeed or do I want to fail." and doing the work until you get a giant grin as a response.
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