How do you define success?

I have a friend whose husband won the Nobel Prize.  We were all thrilled, but he didn't interpret it as success: he thought he needed two before the restless face in the mirror, the critical voice in the head, stopped saying, "You're basically a failure."

I cringed at the time, mostly because I really did feel his pain–I have a good career, I have good success, but I must not really be any good because Fred and Lily and Cindy outsell me, or are on op-ed pages more often, or have more friends t...