Release the balance myth of 2020 and integrate harmony instead in 2021
Busting the work life balance myth!
Greeting beautiful Beings :) If the year 2020 has proved to us anything by now, it’s that the one constant we can count on is change. If we look at a tightrope walker, the year 2020 is the wobbly guy up there without a harness or safety net over the grand canyon! We must release the paradigm of balance and adopt the harmony goal instead if we want to stay not only alive another year but also stay sane and even productive and beneficial next year in 2021. Balance is the concept that both sides must be equal in weight in order to safely navigate the thin line given to pass. The very mention of this feat sends me into a bit of anxiety, how about you? In this piece we want to become aware of what is being asked of us in the first place and then look at how we have gone about dealing with the roles we play and most of all how we learn to navigate these everyday life chores with grace and ease through harmony instead of balance. What are the differences between harmony and balance and why looking at it through a new lens can really up level your life in 2021 is what the intention here is. Let’s dig in shall we.
I have personally realized a few grand things this year about balance and that it is actually a horrible unrealistic goal. Talk about tying your heart to a dead end dream! NO ONE and I am saying NO ONE truly even has the capability to “balance” life and the fact that the myth has been thrust on already overworked and underpaid Beings shows me it’s a myth meant to harm instead of benefit us. It’s already plain stressful enough just to stay alive here on earth 2020 and on top of that we desire to thrive and succeed. In the face of such ordinary earth challenges like breathing clean air and finding pure clean drinking water, getting enough exercise, sunlight and nutritious foods, living is a full time job. Then we have to pay for it all. We are in a constant survival cycle induced by instinct to live and an evolved drive to excel. I had the amazing opportunity of interviewing an expert voice of this very concept on the
Practicalsaint Talks podcast with Susan Bender-Phelps from October 2020
. She has an incredible professional bio that has proven this switch of trying to achieve balance versus living in harmony with all provides real tangible results in less time that you could imagine! We had a blast digging into this message and uncovered many valuable nuggets for us all to enjoy. I hope you invest a few moments of your time and energy into
listening to this million dollar advice
from top producing mentors. As a recap, I’ll extend the cast for us here now.
If we think about balance in general, it’s keeping two sides happy basically. One must concentrate fully on the steps we take PLUS keep an equal weight in both our hands or sides of our body in order to just make it, and when the wind blows strongly or someone even talks to us breaking our intense required concentration-we collapse! Side note and major deal, equal weight can look totally different in form, like a pound of feathers v a pound of rocks. Part of the balance myth is that events and actions must look the same and be of equal weight or matter, they don’t. Prioritizing with awareness and intention is how we actually can flow in harmony instead of wasting effort on a mythical state called Balance.
Just imagine a different picture of this amazing vehicle, we’ll call this vehicle the year 2020 here, 'Response-able', conscious, graceful and majestic we are walking, running, dancing, flipping or any other perfectly timed movement (including stillness and rest) on an entire unified surface! No thin line to dangerously navigate or continuously maneuvering or holding tightly to objects, ideas or matter in order to “control” or manipulate the events or stuff so we don’t fall. No constant choices or decisions that lead to us feeling paralyzed or feeling the need to rush forward to alleviate stress. What if we didn’t have the constant fear of life falling into the dark unknown abyss known as change? What if we could move through life with a confidence that no matter who, what, where, when or why, we are perfect? We are in perfect timing with life and only “fall” or "fail" when we jump out of that beautiful harmonious stream by going back to the old way of thinking and start controlling and “balancing” again.
Is it too grand an idea? No. That’s why I took time to interview the amazing Susan , because she not only lives this way but she has taught 1,000s of others to work the same way. In our podcast, we highlighted the fact that balance has been unfairly pushed on humans, especially women who have historically been expected to take care of the house, the children, the household finances, the care of the community PLUS make money and take excellent care of ourselves all at the same time! Yike. That’s a lot guys. No one can do it. Not in the balance model, which is why we see a HUGE number of suicides, depression, dis-ease or dis-abilities, or maybe worse aggression and violence toward others including riots, looting and murder in general. It's a fail-fail system that we MUST get out of rn. Right now! 2020 has shown us we can’t actually predict the future events based on past ones. 2020 has taught us patience and awareness. We have ALL had to adjust and flow or we have been sucked in the undertow and feel lost and desperate in the sea of change. This is where the new view of 2021 must include harmony.
What is harmony actually? I would say it’s the releasing of all expectations and being in the flow of what is, in all moments. When we properly (consciously) create causes and conditions in our everyday actions, we live in a new space. We live in a space that is filled with infinite potential and we know what we do actually creates what we experience. If we desire to experience a happy, joyful, fresh, open hearted existence, we have to realize we already possess it. “It” is not something outside of us, hence something to be balanced in the first palace, it (happiness, fulfillment, harmony, etc…) resides inside us and is laying latent in most humanity just waiting to be seen and nurtured! When we wake up to the fact we are 100% Response Able to every single event that comes our way, we actually are empowered in a whole new exponential way. We realize we are actually able to respond in a safe and aware, creative and appropriate manner, every time, which in turn brings us to a confident space that allows us to harmoniously interact with all that is. We stop seeing outside events or people as a cause for our unhappiness. When we do see upsetting issues, we feel it. When we feel it, we respond with compassion for ourselves, others and the unseen ones. We can transmute and alchemize in order to harmonize eternally. I’m not suggesting there are no longer unwanted change or sadness or pain when we live in harmony. I’m saying that when we live in harmony, we are no longer thrown off course when we do encounter these inevitable sufferings on planet earth 2020/2021 and beyond.
The real gem of this concept to me is that once we let go of so-called control or balance that is outside focused, we allow for pure transformation to occur through the universal law of harmony. It becomes an inward state that opens up a whole new world, literally. As individuals wake up to this truth, it continues to spread to corporations and companies as well as communities and families globally. When we as species start to invest in harmonious solutions, we are creating the new earth. Heaven is a place that is content and abundant. There is plenty for all and everyone gets their way. We have the real privilege to shape and craft the world we live in now and the one that future generations will experience, therefore shaping our eventual time in the elusive Heaven space we all basically desire to experience. What we do today, DOES shape our tomorrow. I promise. The main take away from the cast we shared is that clinging to the work life balance myth sets us up to feel like failures, every time. As already mentioned, it is virtually impossible to maintain balance where self, other and the unseen is concerned. If we strive for that false ideal, we will always fall short. Life sucks. Sure there will be times the crazy seems to work, yet the results are far from consistent and only lean toward consistently failing if anything.
This is what we got life wise. Where we are is where we are. We must take full responsibility for what we have created personally and collectively thus far. The gentle news is that we can change where we are. The harsh news is that we have to change for things to change as well. 100% response “ability” is what we’re going for in order to be 100% empowered (in-power) at all times, no matter what in the world is flying past us at the moment. When we no longer only see the thin line (supposed tos, shoulds and expected tos) as our only path but the whole wide space as our field and playground, we automatically feel supported and safer. We can fly and not fall. Being unexpectedly blown around becomes fun and adventurous instead of terrifying and horrible.
When we let go of shoulds and supposed tos; expectations as it were, we open up to allow infinite solutions and outcomes. Living in harmony is feeling safe and confident enough to take unknown paths with courage and doing it consistently enough to see the physical manifestations of such a practice. Becoming aware in this manner allows us to constantly adjust of trajectory course that remains harmonious and aligned with our real self, others and the Divine. I have personally lived this concept for about 10 years now, maybe more, and I’m telling you right now, there is NO OTHER endeavor or goal that can ever fulfill or satisfy us without this foundational truth being embodied here right now where you are for the rest of your existence. Nothing else can truly matter (materialize) until we are rocking with the harmonious orchestra of life! Any amount of perceived success will be stripped away as soon as it arrives, because life is change and something surely comes to blow us off the thin line we too oft walk.
Here’s to us grooving harmoniously with 2021 as it dances to meet us in a few short weeks. If I have one legacy to share with this earth I’m living on, it’s the one of freedom, the complete freedom, that living harmoniously with self, others and the unseen ones brings us. Let us now let go of what we think we are supposed to be, do, think and feel and allow what is to be. When it appears, we see it, we acknowledge it, we love it, we share it if we need to, and above all else we transmute it through our beautifully designed human Being. Shadows are only dark spaces that desire attention. We are not owned by our shadow states, only directed by them. And when our shadow spaces have been touched by harmonious uncondtioned acceptance, they either dissolve or they become beautiful large silhouettes of our beautiful Beings that show up when we are illuminated by high frequency light and love. The simple truth is that we’re all perfect. We are divine Beings in human bodies desiring a divine existence in permanent harmony with all. How we achieve it is called life. Regardless if you think we come back again and again until we achieve this permanent harmony or we get one shot in this body we now live in is irrelevant to this topic. We are here right now at any rate and how we show up in our mundane everyday life is what amounts to our life in total; in this world of duality and polarized view points, we do not know if a drunk driver will swipe us and kill us instantly, we do not know if a killer virus will show up and change our entire world as we knew it, we do not know if we will have cancer take over our cellular Being and kill us, we do not know if we will have our same job or house or spouse or pets in the next 24 hours actually. Change happens and is happening at spectacular rates currently. In order to smoothly maneuver through this shifting matrix we must realize harmonious states in our cells (selves) with others and the unseen (divinity) ones. Stick with it and take surprising support or opportunities with leaps of faith and courage this season, because tomorrow may not come and this is it folks, this is what we got to work with. It’s time to move forward with grace and ease in 2021 and beyond. We all deserve the peace and contentment that harmony is married to. We all can actually achieve happiness and satisfaction in this field of unity and harmony. It is actually up to us, as an individual, to make concrete actionable steps to creating this harmony. There has never been a better time to let go of the old and explore what can be.
Listen to the original interview on busting
the work life balance myth with Susan Bender-Phelps
or
watch it here
. Share, comment and engage in order to water this harmony seed and really start to see your harvest flow in!
Infinite blessings from your kolee. Till next time, see you round and thank you for your beautiful Being :) xo k
Greeting beautiful Beings :) If the year 2020 has proved to us anything by now, it’s that the one constant we can count on is change. If we look at a tightrope walker, the year 2020 is the wobbly guy up there without a harness or safety net over the grand canyon! We must release the paradigm of balance and adopt the harmony goal instead if we want to stay not only alive another year but also stay sane and even productive and beneficial next year in 2021. Balance is the concept that both sides must be equal in weight in order to safely navigate the thin line given to pass. The very mention of this feat sends me into a bit of anxiety, how about you? In this piece we want to become aware of what is being asked of us in the first place and then look at how we have gone about dealing with the roles we play and most of all how we learn to navigate these everyday life chores with grace and ease through harmony instead of balance. What are the differences between harmony and balance and why looking at it through a new lens can really up level your life in 2021 is what the intention here is. Let’s dig in shall we.
I have personally realized a few grand things this year about balance and that it is actually a horrible unrealistic goal. Talk about tying your heart to a dead end dream! NO ONE and I am saying NO ONE truly even has the capability to “balance” life and the fact that the myth has been thrust on already overworked and underpaid Beings shows me it’s a myth meant to harm instead of benefit us. It’s already plain stressful enough just to stay alive here on earth 2020 and on top of that we desire to thrive and succeed. In the face of such ordinary earth challenges like breathing clean air and finding pure clean drinking water, getting enough exercise, sunlight and nutritious foods, living is a full time job. Then we have to pay for it all. We are in a constant survival cycle induced by instinct to live and an evolved drive to excel. I had the amazing opportunity of interviewing an expert voice of this very concept on the
Practicalsaint Talks podcast with Susan Bender-Phelps from October 2020
. She has an incredible professional bio that has proven this switch of trying to achieve balance versus living in harmony with all provides real tangible results in less time that you could imagine! We had a blast digging into this message and uncovered many valuable nuggets for us all to enjoy. I hope you invest a few moments of your time and energy into
listening to this million dollar advice
from top producing mentors. As a recap, I’ll extend the cast for us here now.
If we think about balance in general, it’s keeping two sides happy basically. One must concentrate fully on the steps we take PLUS keep an equal weight in both our hands or sides of our body in order to just make it, and when the wind blows strongly or someone even talks to us breaking our intense required concentration-we collapse! Side note and major deal, equal weight can look totally different in form, like a pound of feathers v a pound of rocks. Part of the balance myth is that events and actions must look the same and be of equal weight or matter, they don’t. Prioritizing with awareness and intention is how we actually can flow in harmony instead of wasting effort on a mythical state called Balance.
Just imagine a different picture of this amazing vehicle, we’ll call this vehicle the year 2020 here, 'Response-able', conscious, graceful and majestic we are walking, running, dancing, flipping or any other perfectly timed movement (including stillness and rest) on an entire unified surface! No thin line to dangerously navigate or continuously maneuvering or holding tightly to objects, ideas or matter in order to “control” or manipulate the events or stuff so we don’t fall. No constant choices or decisions that lead to us feeling paralyzed or feeling the need to rush forward to alleviate stress. What if we didn’t have the constant fear of life falling into the dark unknown abyss known as change? What if we could move through life with a confidence that no matter who, what, where, when or why, we are perfect? We are in perfect timing with life and only “fall” or "fail" when we jump out of that beautiful harmonious stream by going back to the old way of thinking and start controlling and “balancing” again.
Is it too grand an idea? No. That’s why I took time to interview the amazing Susan , because she not only lives this way but she has taught 1,000s of others to work the same way. In our podcast, we highlighted the fact that balance has been unfairly pushed on humans, especially women who have historically been expected to take care of the house, the children, the household finances, the care of the community PLUS make money and take excellent care of ourselves all at the same time! Yike. That’s a lot guys. No one can do it. Not in the balance model, which is why we see a HUGE number of suicides, depression, dis-ease or dis-abilities, or maybe worse aggression and violence toward others including riots, looting and murder in general. It's a fail-fail system that we MUST get out of rn. Right now! 2020 has shown us we can’t actually predict the future events based on past ones. 2020 has taught us patience and awareness. We have ALL had to adjust and flow or we have been sucked in the undertow and feel lost and desperate in the sea of change. This is where the new view of 2021 must include harmony.
What is harmony actually? I would say it’s the releasing of all expectations and being in the flow of what is, in all moments. When we properly (consciously) create causes and conditions in our everyday actions, we live in a new space. We live in a space that is filled with infinite potential and we know what we do actually creates what we experience. If we desire to experience a happy, joyful, fresh, open hearted existence, we have to realize we already possess it. “It” is not something outside of us, hence something to be balanced in the first palace, it (happiness, fulfillment, harmony, etc…) resides inside us and is laying latent in most humanity just waiting to be seen and nurtured! When we wake up to the fact we are 100% Response Able to every single event that comes our way, we actually are empowered in a whole new exponential way. We realize we are actually able to respond in a safe and aware, creative and appropriate manner, every time, which in turn brings us to a confident space that allows us to harmoniously interact with all that is. We stop seeing outside events or people as a cause for our unhappiness. When we do see upsetting issues, we feel it. When we feel it, we respond with compassion for ourselves, others and the unseen ones. We can transmute and alchemize in order to harmonize eternally. I’m not suggesting there are no longer unwanted change or sadness or pain when we live in harmony. I’m saying that when we live in harmony, we are no longer thrown off course when we do encounter these inevitable sufferings on planet earth 2020/2021 and beyond.
The real gem of this concept to me is that once we let go of so-called control or balance that is outside focused, we allow for pure transformation to occur through the universal law of harmony. It becomes an inward state that opens up a whole new world, literally. As individuals wake up to this truth, it continues to spread to corporations and companies as well as communities and families globally. When we as species start to invest in harmonious solutions, we are creating the new earth. Heaven is a place that is content and abundant. There is plenty for all and everyone gets their way. We have the real privilege to shape and craft the world we live in now and the one that future generations will experience, therefore shaping our eventual time in the elusive Heaven space we all basically desire to experience. What we do today, DOES shape our tomorrow. I promise. The main take away from the cast we shared is that clinging to the work life balance myth sets us up to feel like failures, every time. As already mentioned, it is virtually impossible to maintain balance where self, other and the unseen is concerned. If we strive for that false ideal, we will always fall short. Life sucks. Sure there will be times the crazy seems to work, yet the results are far from consistent and only lean toward consistently failing if anything.
This is what we got life wise. Where we are is where we are. We must take full responsibility for what we have created personally and collectively thus far. The gentle news is that we can change where we are. The harsh news is that we have to change for things to change as well. 100% response “ability” is what we’re going for in order to be 100% empowered (in-power) at all times, no matter what in the world is flying past us at the moment. When we no longer only see the thin line (supposed tos, shoulds and expected tos) as our only path but the whole wide space as our field and playground, we automatically feel supported and safer. We can fly and not fall. Being unexpectedly blown around becomes fun and adventurous instead of terrifying and horrible.
When we let go of shoulds and supposed tos; expectations as it were, we open up to allow infinite solutions and outcomes. Living in harmony is feeling safe and confident enough to take unknown paths with courage and doing it consistently enough to see the physical manifestations of such a practice. Becoming aware in this manner allows us to constantly adjust of trajectory course that remains harmonious and aligned with our real self, others and the Divine. I have personally lived this concept for about 10 years now, maybe more, and I’m telling you right now, there is NO OTHER endeavor or goal that can ever fulfill or satisfy us without this foundational truth being embodied here right now where you are for the rest of your existence. Nothing else can truly matter (materialize) until we are rocking with the harmonious orchestra of life! Any amount of perceived success will be stripped away as soon as it arrives, because life is change and something surely comes to blow us off the thin line we too oft walk.
Here’s to us grooving harmoniously with 2021 as it dances to meet us in a few short weeks. If I have one legacy to share with this earth I’m living on, it’s the one of freedom, the complete freedom, that living harmoniously with self, others and the unseen ones brings us. Let us now let go of what we think we are supposed to be, do, think and feel and allow what is to be. When it appears, we see it, we acknowledge it, we love it, we share it if we need to, and above all else we transmute it through our beautifully designed human Being. Shadows are only dark spaces that desire attention. We are not owned by our shadow states, only directed by them. And when our shadow spaces have been touched by harmonious uncondtioned acceptance, they either dissolve or they become beautiful large silhouettes of our beautiful Beings that show up when we are illuminated by high frequency light and love. The simple truth is that we’re all perfect. We are divine Beings in human bodies desiring a divine existence in permanent harmony with all. How we achieve it is called life. Regardless if you think we come back again and again until we achieve this permanent harmony or we get one shot in this body we now live in is irrelevant to this topic. We are here right now at any rate and how we show up in our mundane everyday life is what amounts to our life in total; in this world of duality and polarized view points, we do not know if a drunk driver will swipe us and kill us instantly, we do not know if a killer virus will show up and change our entire world as we knew it, we do not know if we will have cancer take over our cellular Being and kill us, we do not know if we will have our same job or house or spouse or pets in the next 24 hours actually. Change happens and is happening at spectacular rates currently. In order to smoothly maneuver through this shifting matrix we must realize harmonious states in our cells (selves) with others and the unseen (divinity) ones. Stick with it and take surprising support or opportunities with leaps of faith and courage this season, because tomorrow may not come and this is it folks, this is what we got to work with. It’s time to move forward with grace and ease in 2021 and beyond. We all deserve the peace and contentment that harmony is married to. We all can actually achieve happiness and satisfaction in this field of unity and harmony. It is actually up to us, as an individual, to make concrete actionable steps to creating this harmony. There has never been a better time to let go of the old and explore what can be.
Listen to the original interview on busting
the work life balance myth with Susan Bender-Phelps
or
watch it here
. Share, comment and engage in order to water this harmony seed and really start to see your harvest flow in!
Infinite blessings from your kolee. Till next time, see you round and thank you for your beautiful Being :) xo k
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