This is Why it’s Hard To Forgive

We say very often to people and especially to our partners that we would never forgive them if they ever cheated on us. Many people haven’t even thought about the reason why they won’t be able to do so.

The reason, it’s so challenging and sometimes impossible to forgive is because of the lack of space inside of us.

When someone breaks our heart or we are in pain we are out of balance.

When we are out of balance we are disconnected from ourselves.

When we are disconnected we aren’t for ourselves, we aren’t loving nor giving ourselves what we need. When this happens we aren’t able to have love in our hearts and when there is no love for ourselves there is no love for others.

Where there is no love there is no forgiveness.

To forgive someone is to free yourself up. To forgive means to let go. To let go you need to move on and to move on you need strength.

It’s why they say that time heals everything. Because as time goes we are able to create that strength in us, the strength and love build up slowly over time and we stretch our abilities to forgive.

We learn to forgive by letting our hearts break over and over, Where there is fear of pain there is fear of love. If you try to avoid pain you also avoid joy automatically.

I think that to forgive someone for any pain they caused us is very challenging. I think that it’s an ability to forgive and to forgive better you have to try better. It’s not like our abilities to forgive are fixed, it is a skill. And as everything is learnable so is forgiveness.

As we try harder we create more space for forgiveness within.

Some of us need more time than others. It doesn’t matter how long it takes as long as you show up for yourself it counts.

Small consistent steps will open up far greater doors than you can ever imagine.

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