In Others' Words: Focus

"It is wise to direct your anger towards problems — not people; to focus your energies on answers — not excuses." ~ William Ward, English missionary & author

There came a time in my life when I had to face a harsh reality: I was an angry mommy.

I had a lot of aspirations for myself as a mom — spilling angry words and actions out on my young children was not one of them.

I had a choice: Conceal my struggles (and continue to verbally lash out at my son and daughters) or admit I had a problem and needed help.

I hit my knees and wept, asking God to help me, to change me. And, I am so thankful to say that, over time, He did.

But as I read today's quote, I realized something new. Part of my healing came as I redirected my anger away from my children — even away from myself for failing so miserably as a mom — and channeling that energy toward conquering what had overcome me in my past (abuse) and fueled the anger even to that present day. I stopped excusing my actions — I was tired, I didn't mean it — and sought hard-won answers.

In Your Words: It's Monday — today stretches ahead of you, as well as the rest of the week. Odds are, plenty of opportunities await for you to get angry. Where's your focus? Problems or people? Answers or excuses?

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