What is this thing called romance?

 I'm serious....                           what is romance????- candle lit dinner (if at home who does the dishes, if at a restaurant is it okay to double dip in my personal ranch or does that ruin the romance?????)OR- drinks by the fire place (who brings in the wood? What if the wood is wet and it just smokes? What if there is spiders living in the wood?)     - a vase of flowers (do I try to dry