Grief and laughter

My siblings and I (I’m the goofy one)

One of my favorite photos of my siblings and I is one in which I was making a silly face. My brother and sister were genuinely laughing. But in this photo, we’re also dressed up for our dad’s funeral. There were plenty of tears that day, for sure. But amid the pain, and amid the feeling cheated out of a future with this wonderful father and grandfather, we encountered just a little bit of joy.

As I write this, we’ve been spending a few days in Fresno, ...