13 Years in Facebook Messages

I just went down the rabbit hole of going over 13 years worth of Facebook messages — to archive, to delete, to belatedly answer some missives. It was both enlightening and horrifying. There were messages from friends who are now dead. [Clinton, Luis, Jacqueline, Em, etc., a whole gamut of memories.] Messages from former friends who might as well be. Messages from people you seem to be very friendly with in the texts, but can no longer remember who they are anymore. Flirtations that went somewhere — and nowhere. Opportunities that went nowhere, or were totally missed. I’ve ghosted a lot, and have been ghosted back in equal measure. How do you measure a life in FB messages?