Why You Should Make Rich Friends....
I've been lucky to run in diverse social circles. I know people who are constantly struggling to stay off the streets, and I've hung out with people who, if they're not in the 1%, are certainly in the top 10. I've "dated" a millionaire, a college professor, and a guy who just lost his entry level job. (I paid that night.) All cool guys in different ways. This doesn't strike me as odd, but sometimes I forget how weird I am.
There is something very natural about seeking out friends and acquaintances that are "like us". We often perceive "like us" in terms of race, gender, social status, age, income, etc. This isn't all bad. It helps someone know what we're going through when they're going through it too, and frankly people who share similiar attributes are more likely to be working along beside us, frequenting the same hangouts, or shopping in the same stores.
However too much "like us" stagnation in your social circle often turns into "us vs. them" perception, and that's not so healthy. I am not suggesting you should try to make friends with someone because they're rich. But that you be open to making friends and acquaintances regardless of their income.
Understand "rich" is a subjective term. By comparison to many people in third world countries, I live a rich lifestyle, and I've never made more than $1500 during a month.
Regardless of the numbers, it can be awkward hanging out with people who make more than you (whether $10,000 or $100,000 more). They think less about eating out and other entertainment costs. They may complain about incomes that you envy. They plan trips you can't afford to take and tell you how fun they were. And if you focus on these things, it can be pretty miserable.
On the other hand, if you keep your focus on the things you have in common and respect, even celebrate your differences, these can be really rewarding relationships. You may share religious values, a love of Star Wars, a sports team, a political party, etc.
You can't be best friends with everybody, but if you find yourself intimidated by an expensive watch, be aware that you may be applying a stereotype to someone without giving yourself a chance to learn who they are as a person.
"Rich" friends may be better connected, may be able to afford better gifts, may be more willing to cover you when they just want company. Don't hold this against them. They need real friends just like the rest of us.
